toomuch Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 My ex gf and I had plans to be married and have children until she broke it off several months ago over a very typical fight. It took me by shock that she actually really walked away this time. The first month she would hardly call and when she did I'd be desperate and plead for her to rethink everything she had thrown away which would only push her further away. She told me she will never take me back ever at one point but freak out everytime I would tell her I'm moving on with my life to meet new women. This girl is diagnosed with bipolar. She is 22 years old and I'm 24. 6 months have passed and during this time both of us have remained single(me waiting for her knowing I'm either on the string or shes just scared). So we get to the point where she still tells me she will always love me but she doesn't know if we will ever be together. Lately I have stopped pressuring her and she doesn't get irritated when I remind her that I still want a relationship and it finally seems like we are getting somewhere(although there was not talk of getting back together). Keep in mind we live in different states and haven't seen each other since the break up. Then she ignores me for several days and tells me that she met a new guy that she likes so I flip out and tell her again I've been waiting for you so now I'm going to start meeting new people since she is too. Sounds fair right? She flips out and tells me that she will push him away and that she will never be with him unless I take her for granted or tell her I'm going to walk away again. So a few weeks go by and she tells me she still talks with him but rarely will see him. She promises she hasn't slept with him and never will but he had tried really hard to get in her pants. then one night she hangs out with another girl friend of hers and the guy is there and hes slapping her on her ass and such and she does nothing to stop it but she tells me she doesn't like it. So I tell her I'm done waiting while she continues to bump into this guy and let these things take place while I avoid situations with other girls because I just want her. She tells me she wants me and no one will ever compare and that I'm overracting. I told her to stop contacting me. So what do you think? Am I right to finally give up and move on? Or should I continue to be a tool while waiting and let her continue to have her cake and eat it too?
Geishawhelk Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 I'm sorry. This is a dumb question. Can you see yourself still hanging on in 6 months? A year? Because that's what you're asking, really. How long, in fact, are you prepared to be made an idiot of? The sensible thing is to put your money where your mouth is, end it now, go No Contact - completely, utterly, right across the board, for now, for good for "done with this!"
4by4 Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Sorry dude but she DOES NOT sound like the marrying kind. Show yourself some respect and dignity, you can do better. Maybe she'll realize that too once you stand up for yourself. Agree with Geisha and go NC.
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