nama Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 After being 'stuck' in life for a few years my life is moving in the right direction but I still have lots of work to do. I'm very conscious of the fact that I am 'blocked'. By this I mean I have been carrying around baggage for years and I don't know how to let go of it. By baggage I mean hurt, anger and low self-worth from years back but also my inability to share my feelings/ emotions with others. I hold too much in so my moving forward is at a very slow pace. I have gone through stuff mostly on my own, confiding in friends only occasionally. I feel that I'm a river ready to burst the dam. What I would like to know is, are their any recommended outlets? I know I should confide in people more but that is easier said than done when you've been bottling it up for 10 years. I went to see a psychotherapist but it did nothing for me. I want to let go, not analyse it. I also find it very hard to relax, thoughts are always swirling in my head. I've tried to keep a journal but that didn't last long. I've joined the gym as exercise does work to a certain extent. I just want to let go and work on my life! Can anyone help????
Tarantula Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 The fact you are thinking of it is very helpful already . God bless!
Ronni_W Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 By baggage I mean hurt, anger and low self-worth ... I went to see a psychotherapist but it did nothing for me. I want to let go, not analyse it. Unfortunately, when it comes to limiting beliefs, non-productive thought patterns and healing old wounds, it's difficult (if not impossible) to let go of 'it' unless you know what 'it' consists of and how 'it' originated. The only way out, is through...even if you undertake a self-help program. There are many good sites that offer free personal development articles. I like the stuff at coping.org (look under "Adults' Tool Box") and also http://eqi.org/eqe96_1.htm Possibly that psychotherapist wasn't employing the best tools that would make it easiest for you to work through your 'stuff'. I have found it extremely valuable to also have a professional's input and support, even during those times that I'm doing more self-help stuff. Best of luck.
SoundTribe Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Nama, i think a lot differently then most people, which is why i don't see what you are feeling as a "problem." i think that emotions such as anger, and revenge are great motivation. Just my personal thoughts.
sared Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 communicating and spending time frequently with family and friends is number 1. you have to open up, relax and have fun with people you like. hang out with people with positive outlook in life. the more friends and loveones you have, the happier you'll become.
diggy Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Wow...sounds like you need some help. One thing that really helped me when I was going through a time of confusion and not knowing what I was going to do with my life was a program by David de Angelo and Dr Paul called - Deep Inner Game, which adresses all aspects of personality and emotions in such a clear and awesome way. I dont have the link but you can find it on google im sure. Dont think you can go wrong in trying, its an awesome course, about 8 hours on DVD. Good luck!
alwayssme Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I have a question. What exactly are you trying to let go of? What is holding you back? What's the anger/hurt that you're still holding on to? Maybe be a little more specific with what is it that is bothering you..
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