did I do the right thing?

[Knight_Ctrl]

my ex just sent me a text asking how I was doing. Our texting convo went like this after

 

Me : "im doing fine, was there something you needed?"

 

her: "I was going to see if it was alright with you if i came down to the library" (my workplace)

 

me: "I really dont want to see you right now, if you dont have to please dont.

 

her: "*sigh* dislike me that much?...alright I wont come"

 

me: " I have no idea how i feel about you anymore, I just dont want to relapse by seeing you texting is bad enough"

 

her: "oh...ok, i really am glad to hear that things are getting better....I'll quit texting you. Just know that for whatever reason you may need me, i am here...and th..."

 

and thats it, nothing back yet...im gonna lose it if she tells me she loves me though....guys what the hell.

[DSM-IV Tom]

Man girls are filthy and shady. What a bunch of bs.

 

Was this girl the one who broke up with you? How long ago? And why?

 

What do you want? Do you want to get back together with her or not?

[Knight_Ctrl]

yeah this is the one who strung me out for a month telling me she was confused and then spent all of her free time with friend of mine and got a crush on him, essentially leaving me for him. that was about a month ago. Thing is i started hanging out with this girl i work with (just friends right now) i don't want anything serious for a while but I know that my ex knows about this and I know she was jealous of this other girl at one time. Part of me still loves my ex (which is why I refuse to even try to be in another relationship right now) but while im busy trying to kill my feelings for her it just makes things really hard when she just randomly texts me, when shes the one who said we needed to go NC the night we broke up.....*smacks head against desk*

[Konfuzion]

You should not have replied to her txt. She is stringing you along until she finds the next guy, and she wanted to hear that she still has you under her control which I am sure was validated with "me: "I have no idea how i feel about you anymore, I just dont want to relapse by seeing you texting is bad enough"

[DSM-IV Tom]

Dude, without a shadow of a doubt, you did the right thing. If you did anything wrong, it would be that you replied to her in the first place. She messed up big time man, and that is ****ed up straight up what she did. You should've never even spoken to her if anything.

 

This girl has problems. Cut her off 100% and don't look back.

[Knight_Ctrl]

just wanted to throw in that the only reason I replied to her text was to keep her from calling me or even worse; just showing up. I knew I had to say something lest things only get harder. Someone get dns in here lol.

[Trialbyfire]

You accidentally called her so this probably triggered off a text from her, wondering why you called. She's hoping for some attention.

 

Maintain NC. She's been sabotaging it with her texts. Don't respond next time. YOU need time to move on. SHE cheated on you.

[Dmoney28]

every case id diffrent. She dumped you, and you didnt do anything wrong to cause the break-up?....NC. Delete the txt when you get...i know its going to take every ounce of stregnth to prevent that. But you have to. It sounds like she's checking up on you , to see if you have moved on. Its sad people play these games...but make plans with that friend of yours...just for a innocent luch or something. have fun. if your ex txt you again, say "im good, been seeing ______ , were having fun"...I bet she will get the hint and leave you alone.

[Tarantula]

She left you for another guy and now showing her shameless a** again?

Just ignore her messages

Life is going on,dude . Always . I see from your posts you are the one who knows that well

 

 

 

 

Best of luck! God bless!