Lucky555 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Recently one of the guys i have been talking to is "getting closer to me" hes acting like its just me and him (it feels good). I have not made up my mind yet, because if i thought with what i felt i would be with him right now but I know i am young and I need some help. I wish in my last relationship I had this site to get help, I don't want to do something stupid or repeat the past. Met this guy once: Background texts me every day mostly night (its been just one week of texting and i met him last weekend) very open Funny complementary asks me how my day was tells me hes going to stay in for the weekend....then all of a sudden texts me and tells me hes at a bar. (on his own tells me he wont be out long) tonight he is going to a Christmas party (drinking involved) Hes from Ireland Things that i don't know if they are right and need some input * He has already invited me to his games that he plays *He asks me when i am inviting him to where i live and has stated he will drive to see me since i drive to see him. (Problem I live with my parents because i can't afford my own place and I'm in school. I don't think he would have a problem if things were more serious ) *He constantly asks what day will i be going to see him but now we have set a date *He has stated "Are you glad you met me" the night I met him he said : This could work. (i didn't think anything of it) I have never had anyone pursue me this much and make his emotions available and is not afraid to tell me he likes me and tells answers all my questions, I don't know if its normal since i don't feel like i have NEVER had a boyfriend who cares! Usually guys i have dated have just been taking the dates in stride, they never texted me and wished me good night, they never asked me how my day was or how i was doing with classes, Hes done everything I have wanted the past guys to do. I feel comfortable opening up to this guy but i just feel like (I can't believe it) hes really this into me? It kind of scares me and feels good at the same time. My concern is that he goes out every weekend and I don't do this. Hes older than i am. Me i don't go out every weekend I go out sometimes with friends but usually i have things to do for school. What do u all think of this guy? hes really starting to capture me. Is it time to ask him what he is looking for with me before I set a date and get more involved...like i said hes doing the right things and I'm starting to feel emotions and Its really making me wonder if its time to have him state what he wants because hes really acting like "its just me and him" (I am in contact with another guy but since this guy is pursuing me i'm getting closer to him. The other guy isn't pursuing me like this guy he seems more "pacing things" and doesn't seem like hes Crazy about me because hes never telling me his feelings or future things that we could do together)
jason83 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Am I understanding that you have met him once (a week ago) and have been text messaging him basically every day since then? Nothing more, right? If that's the case I honestly think you're getting in too deep too quick. It's great to have feelings developing for someone but really get to know the guy first before you think too much on getting into anything too serious. I can understand the drinking and going out being an issue....but you did say he's Irish, right? My girlfriend is Mexican and although she doesn't drink much I understand that at family gatherings a lot of her relatives do. Not trying to stereotype and Irishman (I'm Irish, English and German so I think I can say this lol) but understand that some view drinking differently. Is he getting smashed when he goes out? Is it just one or two with some friends? How old is he? When I was 22 I went out ALL the time. It was a phase that I think a lot of people go through. But you have to get to know him better to find that out. I'd say spend some time with him. Enjoy it but don't get yourself too emotionally attached. He sounds like he could be a nice guy and it's great that you've found someone who doesn't mind sharing their feelings. But I'd be careful that it's not just infatuation...that there is something more My 2 cents for what it's worth
Author Lucky555 Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 I'm trying to keep sensible here, i guess its surreal that hes like this. I do have to get to know him better...its just hes pursuing me and trying to make future planswhich i like but I don't want to commit to them if hes really not the guy he portrays himself out to be. (The fact thats it only been a week and its like this is what makes me wonder or makes me feel like woah.) Thanks for the advise on drinking. hes 26 and I honestly don't know how much he is drinking when he goes out. In general when guys are trying to get closer to me i start to worry because I'm trying to keep sensible about everything. I usually like to figure them out first and i have never had anyone pursue me like this either too so its just I need to slow down the thoughts and let it be. Thanks thats keeping me in logical check!
Trialbyfire Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 He's pulling a full court press. Be careful but enjoy it. Take it slowly. What burns high right off the bat, can burn out quickly.
Gremio Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Am I understanding that you have met him once (a week ago) and have been text messaging him basically every day since then? Nothing more, right? If that's the case I honestly think you're getting in too deep too quick. I agree 100%with the above. I don't know Lucky's personal life, but are you lonely and love the attention from him? With the things you stated he said about glad to meeting you, what is he basing off of that? You only talked, and here and there for a week. What is the basis of his comment?
dates4medotnet Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 He sounds like a good guy who might not have a lot of relationship experience. If you want to experience a relationship with someone who isn't carrying baggage from previous heartbreaks it sounds like a great opportunity to enjoy someone recklessly romancing and pursuing you like he has never romanced and pursued before! Don't let this keeper walk away!!!
Author Lucky555 Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 Trialbyfire: He's pulling a full court press. Be careful but enjoy it. Take it slowly. What burns high right off the bat, can burn out quickly I agree, i have never heard the expression full court press before. I will take your advise. Its going to be 19 days till he sees me again. this is the only time i have to meet up with him since i have lots to do now for college. (exams ect) its weird because when a guy usually approaches me like this i usually back off a lot but its because hes been open with me that i don't feel like i have to put up a guard. I feel like i can just be me. I'm still keeping a watchful eye.
Author Lucky555 Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 I agree 100%with the above. I don't know Lucky's personal life, but are you lonely and love the attention from him? With the things you stated he said about glad to meeting you, what is he basing off of that? You only talked, and here and there for a week. What is the basis of his comment? I have been out of a relationship for 9 months. Guy was on off for two years. BROKE my heart. treated me horrible as i look at it now. I never want to go back to that again. (he had baggage) I can't believe i stayed for so long as i did. He would be hot and then he would back off. It was torture for me emotionally. I am getting to know other people at this time. I have been in contact with one guy for about a month and in no way has he pursued me like this guy. The other guy has the "paper qualifications of a good hardworking guy" but he doesn't seem as caring as this Guy that i speak of. ates4medotnet He sounds like a good guy who might not have a lot of relationship experience. If you want to experience a relationship with someone who isn't carrying baggage from previous heartbreaks it sounds like a great opportunity to enjoy someone recklessly romancing and pursuing you like he has never romanced and pursued before! Don't let this keeper walk away!!! Yes, indeed he doesn't seem to be carrying baggage. Its like his focus is me and i like that. thats exactly what it is "recklessly romancing" and just putting him self out there. Have never had anyone do this, It does not seem like hes "Playing me" because i don't think someone would waste their time texting the girl, emailing the girl, every day and doing this for like 3 hours off and on each night. We are getting to know eachother i suppose. haha.
Gremio Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Have never had anyone do this, It does not seem like hes "Playing me" because i don't think someone would waste their time texting the girl, emailing the girl, every day and doing this for like 3 hours off and on each night. We are getting to know eachother i suppose. haha. Exactly my point above. I feel he is coming on WAY too strong, as if he is completely lonely and you are the only person in his life. I was very seriously interested in someone I met a month ago. She texted me everyday, called me after work, and we had some wonderful times together. Then she disappeared off the face of the earth, and as far as I know, I have absolutely zero idea why.
Author Lucky555 Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 Gremio Exactly my point above. I feel he is coming on WAY too strong, as if he is completely lonely and you are the only person in his life. I was very seriously interested in someone I met a month ago. She texted me everyday, called me after work, and we had some wonderful times together. Then she disappeared off the face of the earth, and as far as I know, I have absolutely zero idea why. he does have a life, He works, goes out with friends, plays sports, I know he is pretty social. He does not appear to be lonely, i have dated a guy who was lonely! I dumped him and I know the signs. I hope he doesn't just vanish either. He usually texts me at night and then we say good night every night! I love the attention but i'm keeping myself in check. I really don't have anything to lose by getting to know him. I like that he can be open and not guarded. When i sense a guy is guarding or not making his intentions known it bothers me a lot. Like this other guy im emailing has made one request of getting together. I think it was because he found out through a friend that another guy is pursuing me. I don't mind if he knows but its like he is not "romancing me" and hes so not exciting me. I don't laugh when i read his emails. its so bland. The guy i speak of makes me laugh and i truly look forward to his texts. The emails i get from the other guy every day are just like so "casual" like hes not ready to move in to the territory its been a month of this! I told him i was sick and he didn't say anything! I told this guy from Ireland that i was sick and he wished me to feel better. so as u see i want the guy thats going to care about me and be himself with me. Who knows.
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