Mushroom Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 So I hooked up with this girl again that I got with like 4 months ago. I was getting with her for like a week (no sex) and she ended up ditching me for a friend of hers. I was kinda broken up about it too since I really liked her. I've known her since we were like 14 and always thought she was cute. We never really hung out but we know alot of the same people and ended up having a ton in common including things like music, movies, etc. Well she broke up with that guy a few weeks ago. While she was with him we talked a little and met u a few times (mostly initiated by her). Well 2 weeks ago she texts me to come to this show around midnight. I ended up sleeping at her house with her in my arms (again no sex). That Wednesday (Black Wednesday) rolled around we met up and I stayed over and slept with her. I asked her to lunch then on Saturday and we hung out for awhile after lunch she kissed me goodbye. Since then we've talked thru texts and on the phone everyday but when I wanted to see her this Wednesday she canceled and asked to reschedule, I said when, she said Saturday. So you can tell I really like this girl or I wouldn't be posting here. However, after her throwing me to the side once already I'm always afraid she'll do it again. I'm also a little weirded out that she doesn't seem to want to see me all the time. I'm kinda looking for some feedback about what she's thinking and how to go about this. I haven't forced anything but I would like a relationship with her. Any comments and advice would be awesome.
Lucky_One Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Just a short thought, but I don't want to be around anyone else all the time, either. Even if you are madly in love with each other in a full-blown relationship, it is healthy to spend time apart and to have separate aspects of your life.
Gremio Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 People. Don't. Change. She left you once for a reason. It will happen again.
CommitmentPhobe Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 People. Don't. Change. She left you once for a reason. It will happen again. You can't apply a blanket rule like that, people do change The drop out stoner type that becomes respectable and hardworking. The flighty one that settles. It's the passage of time, what made sense at one stage of your life doesn't become as important the next It happens all the time. Not to say that this person won't do it again, but they're not guaranteed to do it either. It depends how old they are and what circumstances have altered over the past few months The key is that the OP finds a way to judge that for himself. So I suggest he talks about that with the girl.
Gremio Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 You can't apply a blanket rule like that, people do change The drop out stoner type that becomes respectable and hardworking. The flighty one that settles. It's the passage of time, what made sense at one stage of your life doesn't become as important the next It happens all the time. Not to say that this person won't do it again, but they're not guaranteed to do it either. It depends how old they are and what circumstances have altered over the past few months The key is that the OP finds a way to judge that for himself. So I suggest he talks about that with the girl. I'm basing it off of his post. She left him. Now she is back and he is thinking about the same thing happening again. If it's already on his mind and they aren't a couple, is he paranoid? I think it's a good, gut feeling.
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