SoundTribe Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Me and my ex parted ways on bad terms in early september. we had been together for a year and 6 months. we were each others firsts. I maintained NC and since then and I believed I was over her, and I was. But today my best friend who is a member of the fraternity that she hangs out with told me that she has had sex with four different members of the frat in hopes of a relationship only to get rejected with the various frat guys only wanting to be friends. I realize what she does is none of my business, but this stung. Its hard for me to think that the innocent girl I used to make love to in my car is now a full on sorostitute. At the same time I get pleasure out of the situation because it was her decision for us to split when I cared about her genuinely and she knew it. She left me when my situation got bad and didn't look back. My friend said she left the frat house in tears when her current frat guy broke the news to her. that he had been "using her for sex and wanted to be friends" she replied "you are the 4th guy to do this to me" I care for her a little bit, but only because she was my first girlfriend. I would never take her back as she is tainted goods now. I rest peacefully in the comfort that she knows she had it good when she was with me. Thanks for letting me vent.
gd26 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I would never take her back as she is tainted goods now. I think tainted goods is a matter of perspective. If you fall madly in love with another girl someday who happens to be a virgin, then I am sure you would hope that she doesn't see you as 'tainted goods'!
Author SoundTribe Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 you misunderstand me. i'm not calling girls who have sex tainted goods, i'm calling me ex tainted goods because she has had other guys since me. as in i was before them and then they came.
EmperorR Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Yup I always thought my girl was innocent and sweet not like the others, then I realized what she was and it stung for a little bit, but now ditto she can screw whoever she wants and do whatever she wants I'm not with her, its her life to ruin.
sedgwick Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Women are not "goods," tainted or otherwise.
Author SoundTribe Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 its a figure of speech you feminazi
alwayssme Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 maybe karma is getting back at her for hurting you...
gd26 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I can understand this is difficult for you. It's only been a few months since you both broke up, and this girl was your first sexually intimate relationship. Perhaps you were still hoping that maybe after you stuck with NC that she would realize how much she missed you and would try to get you back. Maybe on some level you figured that at some point you'd both get back together since you were each other's firsts, and had a special place in each other's lives. Then you were disappointed to hear that instead of her missing you during NC, she was out having sex with other men. (I'm sure that wasn't an ego boost.) However, after she had sex with those other guys, in some way, your hopes were dashed - as the situation isn't the same anymore. You can't get back where you left off, as things have changed - and that is hard for you to deal with. I get that. I'm not really sure what to say, except that I realize that you must feel disappointed and hurt and frustrated by the whole thing. I would be hurt too in your place. Take care of yourself...
WiseOne1 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 No matter how he means it, which he doesnt mean it in a bad way, but tainted is nothing good. I don't think you should ever ever take back someone who slept with other people if they were the dumper, dumpee is a diffrent story, thats like my ex from years ago, she left a virgin and came back in porn start status..I was like uhhhhh I think we should be friends, because she wanted to get back together.The old saying is if you don't respect yourself than no one else will respect you. She bassically did'nt respect her self, and another thing is that he now knows that him and her can never be the same, it can only be diffrent.
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