alone_confused Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 hi there, Just curious to those that have broken up with their partners for that famous reason, "i love you I'm just not in love with you" have you ever regretted that decision some time down the track? did it occur to you later on after some time had passed that you really did love them and the grass wasn't so green on the other side? Even though my BF used that line on me after 3 and half years together, and we have now being broken up for 1 and half weeks, and NC for 5days i have come to reallies that i don't want him back even if he did change his mind, which i feel real good about. The reason i ask this question is because 2 weeks ago i would have done anything to get him back but after sitting down and giving it some serious thought, i now know i wouldn't take him back, so if i can change my mind after having some time to think, I'm wondering if the dumpers can as well.
sedgwick Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I am so jealous of and bewildered by people who can get over a breakup in a week. It's been 16 months for me and I'm nowhere close.
Dmoney28 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 im not trying to put words in your mouth , or try and explain how YOU feel. But 1.5 weeks isnt that long. Either you didnt really love him.....or you are in the "Denial" part of the grief stage after a LTR breakup. GIVE IT a couple of weeks of real, concrete NC. You might feel diffrently. Once again if this dosent apply, disregard. Just my 2 cents
EmperorR Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I was there your still in the shock/denial stage, maybe your different I thought I was to.
Author alone_confused Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 no no no, you misunderstood me, I'm not over him, i think about him all the time, the smallest things remind me, like last night a few friends that i haven't seen in some time dragged me out for a drink, I was having a OK night and then a song came on that is my ex BF's ring tone on his phone, I lost all interest in the night and ended up leaving early. So that is not what i meant, i just meant that looking back over the relationship and particularly the last few months i have come to realize that the relationship just wasn't working, and even if he changed his mind tomorrow i wouldn't go back, cause i know in my heart it wouldn't be any different and i don't want to put myself through that anymore. But i sill love him and miss him so bad sometimes, when things happen in my life he was the first person i told, i don't have that anymore, but it's just not meant to be.
alwayssme Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 my ex gave me that line..first time we broke up he told me that...then he regretted his decision and told me he had made a huge mistake. i got back with him...only for him to crush my heart later on with the same BS and this time was final....so painful...4 months and i still havent healed completely. he just completely cut me off now and seems to have moved on without me its really hard when someone leaves u "has time to think" then decides they want you back..you feel like this is it, he thought about it and now you guys are back together...the second time around when he left me, it was horrible becaus ei was hoping he would change his mind like the first time, but he didnt.
openbook08 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 hi alwaysme...same thing happened to me i was doing relatively well before he came back the second time with all his promises only to take whats left of me & less than a month later has a new girlfriend & is parading her around. i feel like this time im never gonna get over it. why did he get to have the best of both worlds? im so fed up
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