The woman I thought I'd eventually marry called today...

[dns502475]

Once again...you need to look up the meaning of the word "mesh".

 

Because what was written after the part I bolded has nothing to do with meshing.

 

When you saw this guy was basically admitting to his mistakes (as we all should, regardless of whether or not we're a man or a woman) You praise him for committing to changing his ways.

 

After which, you tell him to "mesh" (Which means "weave into", "incorporate" or "interlock") her behaviors into his. So, he can basically learn how to respond to women better in the future.

 

I mean, your ENTIRE reply to this guy is based solely on the unshakable premise that he was to blame when anyone with any kind of significant relationship experience knows that in cases like these, it's RARELY, if EVER one person's fault.

 

I mean, the truth is that this poor guy is being WAY too hard on himself. This kid's 23 and just out of college. The young lady is only 22. He's speaking from the point of view of a recently heartbroken person (male or female). Give him some more time, and he'll be more even-handed in his assessment of her faults, too. Because she doesn't sound like a "walk in park" herself.

 

Yes, he made mistakes and those are mistakes he will have to address in his maturation process, but he should in no way accept 100% of the blame of this relationship not working out. But she seemed to have some issues of her own, as well.

 

What this young man AND the young woman need to know is that the two of them are very young and still have a lot of self-discovery and growing to do. That if the friendship between them that undergirded their relationship was truly strong enough, they would have worked through these problems.

 

Because that's what couples do...they work through problems.

 

But none of this. You're approach wasn't close to even handed with him.

 

Since, he's the man, he had to be the one in the wrong. And because he was in the wrong, he lost the girl. Simple.

[norajane]

I was actually thinking nutjobs was a bit harsh. But really, I could care less.

 

Is that why you lost your temper so quickly and fired off that insult? Because you couldn't care less?

 

I also noticed you did not deny that you have a ulterior motives for posting here all of a sudden and so prolifically, particularly in connection with your Program. If that's your agenda, then at least be honest with people so they know you are here to self-promote.

[Cub]

Again, Trailbyfire, norajane, as much as I respect you two, you started this mess and you can end it by cutting it out and leaving this thread before it's locked.

[Trialbyfire]

Once again...you need to look up the meaning of the word "mesh".

 

Because what was written after the part I bolded has nothing to do with meshing.

 

When you saw this guy was basically admitting to his mistakes (as we all should, regardless of whether or not we're a man or a woman) You praise him for committing to changing his ways.

 

After which, you tell him to "mesh" (Which means "weave into", "incorporate" or "interlock") her behaviors into his. So, he can basically learn how to respond to women better in the future.

 

I mean, your ENTIRE reply to this guy is based solely on the unshakable premise that he was to blame when anyone with any kind of significant relationship experience knows that in cases like these, it's RARELY, if EVER one person's fault.

 

I mean, the truth is that this poor guy is being WAY too hard on himself. This kid's 23 and just out of college. The young lady is only 22. He's speaking from the point of view of a recently heartbroken person (male or female). Give him some more time, and he'll be more even-handed in his assessment of her faults, too. Because she doesn't sound like a "walk in park" herself.

 

Yes, he made mistakes and those are mistakes he will have to address in his maturation process, but he should in no way accept 100% of the blame of this relationship not working out. But she seemed to have some issues of her own, as well.

 

What this young man AND the young woman need to know is that the two of them are very young and still have a lot of self-discovery and growing to do. That if the friendship between them that undergirded their relationship was truly strong enough, they would have worked through these problems.

 

Because that's what couples do...they work through problems.

 

But none of this. You're approach wasn't close to even handed with him.

 

Since, he's the man, he had to be the one in the wrong. And because he was in the wrong, he lost the girl. Simple.

Are you deliberately trying to misunderstand to assauge your ego or do you honestly perceive women in this manner? It really does matter which way it is.