kashmir Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I usually don't like to think about any one girl, but this one I kinda like and I think there could be something here. I've been feeling pretty good lately. I go on and off feeling down and depressed to a bit happier, and right now is definitely a higher period, so I'm feeling pretty confident. There's this girl in my writing class who I've been talking to recently. I never really paid attention to her at first because she seemed like the typical empty designer-girl, but she actually started talking to me first and now I'm starting to like her and realizing there's more to her. While her signs could just be friendly signs, they're definitely positive. Every day when I'd walk in, she'd look up and smile at me. The only other person she did that for was this guy friend she has in this class (and I'm positive he's only a friend to her). She's given me a lot of compliments, saying she loves my writing and always looks forward to reading it and that my editing really helped her with her assignments. I really haven't said much to her, in fact I may have even come off as disinterested sometimes. It's not that I'm trying to be that way, but it's just a hard situation to talk in for various reasons. I do think, though, that's attracted her more since she's been showing more signs as time goes on. A few things she did - she was talking with her guy friend and then he said something she jokingly thought was creepy, so she comes over and sits next to me and says to him, "I'm not sitting with you anymore. I wanna sit next to my best friend here." I grin and just say in a flirty way, "Ah, so I'm your best friend now? That didn't take much." She laughed. She's also usually touches me when she starts talking to me or starts on a new subject. Now, the thing is I'm probably not gonna see her again since that class is over. I could possibly see her on Tuesday but the chances are I won't. I was hoping to maybe see her last night at this event but I didn't. As I said, it's been a weird situation to talk in since her very talkative guy friend is usually there and he can interfere sometimes. I'd like to friend her on facebook as a way to maintain contact. I've seen her full name in class many times, plus she signed something on one of my papers, so it's not like I'd find her in a creepy way. You think there's potential here, and what do you think is the best course of action? Friend her now, or wait till Tuesday in case I see her in person? In other news, I'm looking forward to this party I'm going to tomorrow night, so I'll probably meet some people there. Granted, it's a 90's themed party, and I'm gonna be in all-out grunge mode, haha...so I probably won't look all that great. These are the people who wouldn't care though.
sid3 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 No I wouldn't add her as a friend on facebook. Why take a girl from real life and put her online. I'd chat her up and flirt on tuesday, ask her out and get her number.Coffee date/ lunch/ drinks, something not too long, but long enough for her to enjoy the time you spend with her...and who cares if her guy friend is there when you ask her, pretend he is invicible, it'll appear far more confident by asking her regardless of who is around. If doing so has you thinking it will force you out of your comfort zone, then that alone is a great reason to do it. It's amazing how often we can achieve the things we want when we step out of our comfort zone......regardless of whether or not she excepts, ever time you approach a girl you really do get that much better and more comfortable doing it.
Author kashmir Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 Yeah I definitely won't add her on facebook yet. Believe me, I hate that damned site, but I figured if I miss her on Tuesday then I'll have no other option. I'll wait though.
Isolde Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I agree, I think it's better to gauge her reaction to you more closely in person. Facebook doesn't really advance these things, in my experience.
Mushroom Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I agree, I think it's better to gauge her reaction to you more closely in person. Facebook doesn't really advance these things, in my experience. It has for me. I hate classroom stuff tho, I've been in your situation before. I got the girls number and went out with her a few times nothing more. I'd still go for it tho. Ask her to go out after class.
Isolde Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 It has for me. I hate classroom stuff tho, I've been in your situation before. I got the girls number and went out with her a few times nothing more. I'd still go for it tho. Ask her to go out after class. Well, it depends if he's ready to ask her out or not, I'm not sure he is...
Mushroom Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Well, it depends if he's ready to ask her out or not, I'm not sure he is... True, but the sooner then better imho. If she's interested he should make a move before she thinks he's not and moves on.
Author kashmir Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 I should add this detail too. I think she might have a boyfriend, but if she does then I think she might be trying to get out of it. I heard her talking to her guy friend in the class saying how she's tired of some guy and she's been trying to get away from him. Now, I know what you're all going to say - if she'll leave her current guy for me, then she'll do the same with me eventually. You need to understand something though. I'm not looking for anything that serious, so I really don't care. Plus, you don't know how hard it is to find a girl who is 100% unattached. They all seem to have some kind of relationship going on with a guy at all times with no single time in between guys. So bottom line is, I'm not going to let a potential boyfriend stop me. She's certainly shown some good signs, so I'm going to pursue her and see where things go.
shylight200 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 wait...What's so wrong with adding her on facebook now? That's what it's there for so you can connect with other people. Especially if you're not going to see her anymore, it's a great way to keep in touch with her.
Author kashmir Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 I've said it other times on here, but facebook seems to kill attraction. No idea why, it just does.
Author kashmir Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 Didn't see her, so I friended her on facebook. She accepted in a short amount of time. I wrote her a message, she wrote back (mentioning that she was going to be swamped with studying today) and I wrote something back a bit later. No response, but as she said she's mad busy. I think she's the type to go ape **** over finals. I'm really chill when it comes to school work and I don't really panic or devote sleepless nights to studying (I devote very little time, actually...), so I'm not surprised if I can't really contact her the next week. In a few days or something I'll just leave her a message with my number and saying that we should hang out after finals are over. Like I said, not my favorite medium of communication, but it'll have to do, and if she likes me I'm sure she won't be put off by me looking her up on fb. Her status says single, btw. Very nice!
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