I hate her

[allan131]

I want to tell my ex girlfriend, that I hate her. I've been in denial, and keep telling myself I love her, and care about her. But deep down, how I truly feel, i don't care about her at all. It might sound bad, but what she did to me, really hurt me. And after she broke up with me, I kept trying to suck up and be in her life any way I could. Kept saying "it's okay, I'll stick with you" When deep down, all I was feeling was the pain that she did to me. I finally, said to myself "i hate her," and it felt surprisingly good. I'm not the hateful person. I try and love everyone and everyone deserves a chance to be loved. But I truly hate her.

 

And with all the sucking up i've been doing, and the fighting we had, I've some how became the bad guy since she broke my heart. But now that I have accepted the fact I hate her... Everything feels different, and I really want her to know how I feel. Justice for making me feel guilty for her breaking my heart. If I talk to her, or send her an email, and tell her how I truly feel, tell her I hate her, and tell her why, is it going to make me feel better?? Or is it a bad decision, and the best route is to just embrace this hate, and move on with my life?

 

My gut says, I should say something, but on the other hand, I've never been the one to walk away (obviously. haha.) and it's gotten me into trouble.

[Geishawhelk]

The fact that you're even asking says that you're uncertain, and part of you knows that it's not a good idea.

What if a year down the line, you find a wonderful love of your life and you feel happy again?

I think you'd look back and tell yourself that 'sinking to her level' was a crass, unwise and idiotic thing to do.

 

Write the letter, by all means.

And I mean, hand-write, on paper.

let it all out.

Every single bit of venom, vitriol, hatred, anger, resentment, sorrow, sadness, pain.... the lot.

Every grain.

 

Then put it in an envelope.

Then put it in a drawer, and forget about it for 5 days.

 

 

Open the draw.

Open the letter.

 

See how it makes you feel.

 

If you feel like adding something, add it.

if you want to delete something, cross it out.

 

Then again, put it away.

Keep doing this until onbe day you think to yourself, as you look at this letter....

"You know what? I don't care any more. It's over.

I'm done."

 

Take it out to the garden, put it in a tin, and burn it.

And as it goes up in flames, tell yourself that this is the last time you will ever let her rule your mind, or have space rent-free in your heart.

[EmperorR]

Write it but don't send it. I have over 50 drafts in my email full of hateful vile things I wanted to say to my cheating ex fiancé, but I never sent any. While she was rude angry saying hurtful things I said nothing and left the bigger man.

[JoeNat]

Here is how I look at it. Hate is a feeling just like love is. If you dont have any feelings towards her then you will realize that even thinking about her is not worth your time. Just say screw it and that your better off...