shylight200 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Maybe he's just shy? I don't know... but did you hear from him yet?
Author prettybaby Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 Maybe he's just shy? I don't know... but did you hear from him yet? Hey Shylight! Haven't heard from him yet, but I've been talking to a guy friend, and apparently I might not have been clear enough about my interest in him Guess I blew it by trying to play it safe.
Author prettybaby Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 ^^ PS: my guy friend also added that my text put him in a bad position. Because basically I was telling him he could ask me out but that I'd pay for it ... which would make him feel like a cheap a** if he accepted. I don't know why I didn't think of it that way, but yeah, it makes sense I guess My guy friend read the texts and he's pretty confident he'd call sooner or later, but that he's more likely to take his time now because he probably thinks I'm not interested romantically but more as a friend. Shoot. I guess the only way to salvage this now is to call him and make my intentions more clear by asking him to join me for dinner some time this week (still keep it nice and light without being too overwhelming)? I admit I haven't been super upfront about my feelings so far.
spookie Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I dunno PB. He's 40 and you have "liked" each other for 10 years? It sounds to me like if something were to have happened, it'd have happened already. Maybe he likes you, but not as much as he likes being alone? Maybe you're reading it wrong Maybe he's into scat or a furry but feels uncomfortable asking you to s!ht on him?
Author prettybaby Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 He's 40 and you have "liked" each other for 10 years? It sounds to me like if something were to have happened, it'd have happened already. Well, that's a little simplified lol We clearly had a crush on each other about 8 years ago, but then we kinda lost touch due to circumstances and I moved abroad for years (we totally lost touch then), I moved on, got married, I think he had a relationship with someone during that time too, anyway, now I'm back and he's single again as well. So, it hasn't exactly been a 10 year long thing so to speak. I mean, keep in mind we only got back in touch about 2 weeks ago.
LoveJonesRomance Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Prettybaby, talk to this guy directly or find a way to let your feelings known. I have seen none of that from your posts. Looks like he's the only one dropping hints.
Author prettybaby Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 ^^ Yeah, I hadn't really looked at it that way, but since my guy friend pointed out the fact that I haven't clearly expressed my interest, I've started looking at it from this new perspective, and I guess he's right Yikes. Guess I put myself in a bad position, because he clearly likes me. I suppose I shouldn't wait too much longer before reaching out. Pfft. So tricky.
shylight200 Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Good luck! I hope everything works out for you. It does sound like he's interested. Let us know what happens in the end.
Gremio Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 ^^ Yeah, I hadn't really looked at it that way, but since my guy friend pointed out the fact that I haven't clearly expressed my interest, I've started looking at it from this new perspective, and I guess he's right Yikes. Guess I put myself in a bad position, because he clearly likes me. I suppose I shouldn't wait too much longer before reaching out. Pfft. So tricky. As I've said before, since you have nothing now, why are you afraid of contacting him? Is it you just don't know what to say?
The Seeker Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 I am in a somewhat similar position, although it has been a few months, not weeks, since I got back in touch with someone I lost contact with due to circumstances. Also, it's only been 3 years since I heard from her, and we actually dated for about 6 months before circumstances moved us apart. But when we first got back in touch, I just figured I would wait and see what happened, wait and see how things go. I thought maybe I saw a spark there, but I'm kind of a shy guy and she wasn't being too clear. Three-four months later, all I've done is a lot of waiting. Just act. Ask him if he wants to grab dinner, or go out to have a drink, or something simple and take it from there. Something small like that shouldn't scare anyone off. Plus this guy has known you for years, one small misstep won't hurt your chances like it potentially could with someone you just met.
MN randomguy Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Gee. He sounds like a gem, but me wonders why he's still single, no kids, no ex wife, no current GF at 40yrs. And at 40, he really should be able to pursue you, if he wants to.. I disagree. I've got an uncle like this. Straight, the smartest of my 5 uncles and the only one that still has hair. But, never confident enough to pursue a woman. You've just got to find a way to say, You know I've always thought you were cute and I think it could work us dating. Its not really as touchy as it seems. If hes into you he'll be relieved that you've named the #800 gorilla in the room. If not, it will be flattering for him. It might make him a little more confident going forward.
Author prettybaby Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 As I've said before, since you have nothing now, why are you afraid of contacting him? Is it you just don't know what to say? Yeah, that's pretty much it. Although I think I'm starting to get an idea lol I think I'll grab myself together in the next few days and call. Thanks you guys, I really appreciate all the feedback! I'll keep you updated.
Nemo Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Sadly, you missed your opportunity, and have been friend-zoned. And we all know there's no escape. Fate can be a cruel thing.
Author prettybaby Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 Update! I grabbed myself together and called him today! I asked him what he was doing this weekend, and he got the point right away and asked me out for dinner on Friday night! (That made it easy on my part!) He sounded so happy lol it was cute. It's clear now that feelings are definitely mutual He's picking me up at my place and said he knows of a few nice restaurants (oooh). So apparently, those who said I might not have expressed my feelings clearly enough were right. I just needed to be more upfront. Well, in any case, I hope this threads ends up being useful to someone. We shouldn't be so hard on shy guys, especially when we're behaving with innuendos I guess we can't always assume that people will see right through it and that they'll be brave enough to take a chance.
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