sep Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I was in a relationship for 2 years with a girl I met in California, I live in Ireland. We did the long distance thing for a year, seeing each other 3 times and then I moved there for a year but had to come home because my visa ran out last Sept. We went through a rough patch during the summer and she went away for 3 weeks on holidays. When she got back we had a talk and she pretty much decided it was over. I had to agree with her as things werent going too well. That night I stupidly went out and was with another girl. The next day she said she wanted to give it another shot and I agreed. A week later I told her what I had done, she was upset but eventually took me back and the relationship was amazing for a while. She was supposed to come to Ireland for 4 months but cancelled that and said she would visit in the new year and we would do the long distance thing till then. I said ok we will see how it goes. When I got home I couldnt see it working out in the long run as she was there and I was in Ireland, so I broke it off only 3 weeks after I was home. Its been just over 2 months now since we broke up and I am in so much pain, I regret the decision and dont know what I was thinkin. I cant live without her and I told her I wanted to get back together but she said she didnt know if that would ever happen. I could now see myself moving there for good for her or doing the long distance thing for as long as we needed. I know she recently met someone and they will probably start dating and Im afraid Ive lost her forever. I truely still love her and Ive made the biggest mistake of my life...twice. What can I do to get her back?
samspade Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I let her go but can't live without her... Really? Did you two meet in the womb? What can I do to get her back? As the Godfather said to Johnny Fontaine, "You can act like a man!" First of all, don't move anywhere for someone else. Do something like that for YOU. Secondly, you broke up with her twice. Now you think she's dating someone else and you want her back. This sounds like a case of only wanting something when you can't have it. It's natural to have remorse after letting someone go...if I were you, I'd give it a little more time. And oh yeah, meet someone new who lives in your postal code.
Lucky555 Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I have recently met a guy from Ireland the sweetest man I have ever connected with hes kept to his word every time he talks to me! Now i'm afraid of this happening. That i will being to fall for him and he will have to go back to Ireland. Can you help me..how does the visa work? I am not set of where I want to live in the long run. I would actually consider moving if he is the right guy! Ireland is beautiful! To get the girl back. Don't go out with other girls, Tell her you acted like a fool and want to commit to her. You are willing to make this work. Leave it at that. If she loves you I think it will work in your favor. Cheating is bad very bad.
Author sep Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 Thanks for the advice lucky555. Ive told her exactly how I feel and she is still in touch with me almost daily so yeah Im just gonna see what happens and maybe visit in Feb and see if we can work things out. For me I got a student visa for one year, but you can get it for as long as you want, but you must be in college of course. If you were interested in coming to Ireland for a while you can, there is a work visa you can get for 4 months, Sept - Dec. My ex was gonna do that. It's around $600 I think. It enables you to look for a job when you get there. Look up www.usit.ie Ireland is beautiful hope it works out for you!
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