sptu Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 hello to everyone!i am 23 years old and a month ago, i met a guy..we started dating although we both knew that he was leaving for the army very soon..in my country its obligatory for boys to attend the army for some months.anyway, we were hanging out, and one day we made clear that we are not a couple as its not helpful to start a relationship just before entering the army. finally, he entered the army and things are fine..he is calling me often, and i am calling him too..my problem is that i am sooo insecure of whats going on as some days we are not speaking at all...moreover, when i ask him if he does like me, he says that "if i didnt, we wouldnt be together"...(are we together??? ) there are many details i would like to add...my problem is those days that we are not speaking at all...yeaaah he is on the army but he could find a moment to call me!and i told him so, and he said "well here, i have many things in my mind, i am busy, and some times i am not in the mood to talk"..aaah let me tell you that on January he will be moved to another place, faaar, and we were talking about visiting him there..... WHAT ARE WEEEEE??? i am so impatient-- i always was--- and i dont know how to correct it. Jesus finally i have many issues
Lishy Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 You want a label? Ok I will give you one MUG! Get out there and meet a guy who is interested honey, I am not saying this to be horrible but to shock you into realising what you have with this guy is NOTHING! Dont be his fall back girl, you are better than that!
Author sptu Posted December 5, 2008 Author Posted December 5, 2008 ok but why do you think he doesnt want me?
Lishy Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I dont know him so I have no idea BUT all I do know is that when a guy tells you he didnt call as he couldnt be bothered to talk, it speaks volumnes! End it and tell him when he gets out of the army you will consider getting back together as a proper boyfriend and girlfriend and just go and enjoy yourself!
PrincessPeach Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Why should someone have to call every day? I think that it one of the dumbest "rules" that couple put into their relationships, even at long distance. You don't need to talk every day, and if you have that rule, the moment a day happens where they are super busy or forget for any reason it immediately creates problems that could have just been avoided by having one less "rule." Not every guy likes talking to his girl every day. You always trying to make him do so will eventually push him away. Don't worry about it if he doesn't call for a couple days. If calls at all he probably likes you, and it sounds like he is calling with at least some sort of frequency so I'd say that's good as long as you don't mind the fact that he is away in military service.
Author sptu Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 well!!this "rule" derives from the fact that when you want someone, you are thinking of him and therefore you call to see how is he or she...he is not having fun at all at the military and i wish i knew how to handle the situation but i know him very little and military as well i really dont want to lose him cause i think he is nice!!and i am analyzing everything so as to prevent something..it sounds stupid..
LoveJonesRomance Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Too many things going on in the army so I wouldn't blame him. He's not exactly on vacation and the pressure gets too much sometimes. So the choice is yours. Either be patient with him, or start looking around for someone who can give you the attention you want. My suggestion is the latter.
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