Ladies would you like a email like this after dating a guy for close to 3 months?

[John32]

In the subject box I put(Thinking About You)

 

Inside the text I said

 

"hope you are having a good week and I was thinking we can do the movie and dinner thing on saturdaynight . I will call you tonight and I can't wait to hear your voice:)

 

 

 

 

NOTE: we haven't talked on the phone since last wednesday.

 

 

So ladies would you like a email like this? Or is it cheesy?

[carhill]

Call her.

 

If you have to make her suffer an e-mail, try this...

 

"I'm planning to go out to dinner this Friday and take in the new James Bond flick at the theater and would love for you to join me. Do you have any suggestions on a restaurant?"

 

This says two things. You have plans for something you want to do. You want her to join you. It also asks for her considered opinion on an area which may be of interest to her, that being cuisine

 

Don't waffle. Be assertive...

 

I'd still call...

 

Edit: Whoa, you've been dating 3 months? Oh, yeah, super cheesy. Scratch that. Definitely call.... my god...

[Capricciosa]

I can't wait to hear your voice:)

 

 

This part is a little cheesy. And maybe just a Hi! in the subject box.

 

Dont' overdue it early!!

 

(But what do I know, maybe she likes cheesy...)

[carhill]

Yeah, but is three months of dating "early"? I'm conservative and my wife and I were doing the horizontal mambo and violating all of ICQ's rules (there aren't any, really ) on dirty talk by three months A polite e-mail was like alien to us...

[Capricciosa]

Yeah, but is three months of dating "early"? I'm conservative and my wife and I were doing the horizontal mambo and violating all of ICQ's rules (there aren't any, really ) on dirty talk by three months A polite e-mail was like alien to us...

I missed the 3 months in the title...

 

I stand by my "cheesy" verdict though. It's not supposed to a be Hallmark Card.

[Angel1111]

I like it.

[carhill]

Enforce those boundaries

 

OP, what's going on here after three months? Is this a LDR? I mean, even when I "dated" women from other countries, we were more intimate and informal than you're proposing here, and, like I said, I'm really conservative.

[2sunny]

your age might have some value - how old are you both?

 

i like it but i also like carhill's suggestion of more specific info you are giving and allowing her to suggest something as well.

 

shows you respect her opinion - enough to ask anyway.

 

i'd call. more personal if you like her.

[Ronni_W]

I'd love to get something like that...it's perfectly delightful to my senses .

And 3 months is long enough -- I can't see it as coming on too strong, too soon. Nor is it too formal/impersonal.

 

I wouldn't say, "I'm planning to go to a movie" --makes it sound as if that part of things is carved in stone (non-negotiable, inflexible, controlled.) It is HER outing, too.

 

Do it just how you originally had it, John -- that's my suggestion.

And have lotsa fun on Saturday night!

[carhill]

We oldsters must remember the age bracket of the OP and that this likely is the med exam girl (miss type A hyperactive always busy person)....

 

OP, got that right?

 

She'll take one nanosecond to consider your well-couched proposal and another to grant you access or step on you like a bug. I can personally vouch for considered romance never working on such a person.

 

Call her up, ask her if she wants to catch a bite and a flick and move on....

 

That's romantic

 

Oh, and you better kiss her this time or I smack you

[Ronni_W]

We oldsters must remember the age bracket of the OP

Speak for yourself, old man

When it comes to romance, I am as young as...as a spring chicken!!!

 

The old-fashioned version was slipping a seductive note in with his lunch, with promises of good things to come.

The "youngster" version is an email -- with the same seductive promises. I still think it is delightful...just delivery methods have changed, is all.