light2 Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Hi, I just wanna get peoples opinions about my relationship that just ended. Feel free to call me stupid. Here it goes: Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3months now. The relationship never started well but we had our happy moments. How we started was, she move to new area, found me, then breaks up with her old boyfriend to be with me. She is a very very needy person and always wants to be around people. I have put up with a lot of her problems and she is really bi-polar to the definition of it. It might be my paranoia but it feels recently that she is hiding me from her friends. And everytime we're together, she would talk about other guys and what they do. I don't give a sh*t bout that..... why would u tell me.. I am constantly doubting her and it may be due to how she broke up with her ex.. but lately she hasn't been happy around me and it shows. So the final straw was, when she wouldn't let me walk her to the library. We are both university students, i cannot think of ANY reason she wouldn't let me walk her 1minute to the library and she refuses and cannot give me a reason. After argueing for 15-20min she still refuses to walk her to seat in the library. Ok.. so at this point... i'm thinking why.. she cant tell me.. i leave angry... and well it pretty much ended there. What you guys think.... past 3-4weeks has been pure stress because no matter wat i do, she gets happy for 1second and then next moment its sad and bad moods....
Trialbyfire Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Suggested discussion: Okay, what's going on? We've been arguing for the past month, about little things that escalate to big things. If this keeps going on, we're not going to make it. I need you to communicate clearly to me. If we can resolve these issues, maybe come to some kind of compromise, maybe we stand a chance. It can't go on like this.
PrincessPeach Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Just ended you say? From the above description I'd suggest you keep it that way. It was only a couple months in and little things are constantly escalating to big things? That's not normal. I think you saved both of you a lot of stress and trouble by ending it since it really doesn't sound like it would have worked out.
norajane Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I think she kept you hidden because she was interested in other guys and didn't want them to think she had a bf so they'd hit on her. She would have dumped you as soon as she found someone she liked better, and maybe she already had...whoever it was at the library that she was meeting that she didn't want you around.
Dexter Morgan Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Hi, I just wanna get peoples opinions about my relationship that just ended. Feel free to call me stupid. Here it goes: Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3months now. The relationship never started well but we had our happy moments. How we started was, she move to new area, found me, then breaks up with her old boyfriend to be with me. Red flag #1 If she didn't break up with someone because the relationship wasn't great, but instead because it was just to be with someone new, then prepare yourself to be found in the same situation as her X. She is a very very needy person and always wants to be around people. Red flag #2 I have put up with a lot of her problems and she is really bi-polar to the definition of it. Red flag #3 It might be my paranoia but it feels recently that she is hiding me from her friends. And everytime we're together, she would talk about other guys and what they do. I don't give a sh*t bout that..... why would u tell me.. Red flag #4: my xW would tell me about other guys and mention them a little too often, and even talking about these guys in a bad light. Turns out it she was shagging them. I am constantly doubting her and it may be due to how she broke up with her ex.. That and all the red flags laying around the place. So the final straw was, when she wouldn't let me walk her to the library. We are both university students, i cannot think of ANY reason she wouldn't let me walk her 1minute to the library and she refuses and cannot give me a reason. If you walk her to the library, other guys will see you 2 together. Or maybe one guy in particular might see her....?? hmmm? After argueing for 15-20min she still refuses to walk her to seat in the library. Ok.. so at this point... i'm thinking why.. she cant tell me.. i leave angry... and well it pretty much ended there. What you guys think.... past 3-4weeks has been pure stress because no matter wat i do, she gets happy for 1second and then next moment its sad and bad moods.... end it. too many damn annoying red flags. And the bit about her not wanting you to walk her to the library? Ladies, tell this guy the reason you might not want a boyfriend to walk you some place would be. I don't think any woman would turn down the offer of walking someplace. You might get a "you don't have to" so that you don't feel obligated, but I don't think any woman would flat out refuse it. unless..............
PrincessPeach Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Ladies, tell this guy the reason you might not want a boyfriend to walk you some place would be. I don't think any woman would turn down the offer of walking someplace. You might get a "you don't have to" so that you don't feel obligated, but I don't think any woman would flat out refuse it. unless.............. Likely Reason #1: I'm meeting someone (male or female) who I don't want you to meet or to know about you for any variety of reasons. I'm hiding you from someone I know. Likely Reason #2: I'm not actually going to where I say I'm going. And I don't want you to know where I am going.
Your Favourite Smile Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Ladies, tell this guy the reason you might not want a boyfriend to walk you some place would be. To put it simply, id have lost interest. To the extent that spending time with the person would just be irritating.. To the girl in this situation, you say she is a needy person who likes to be around people, maybe she sees you as an obstacle to this. Or maybe its her own personal problems.. Either way, it isnt a good sign.. dont let her play around with you and your feelings any longer. You dont deserve it
Dexter Morgan Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Likely Reason #1: I'm meeting someone (male or female) who I don't want you to meet or to know about you for any variety of reasons. I'm hiding you from someone I know. Likely Reason #2: I'm not actually going to where I say I'm going. And I don't want you to know where I am going. Yup, that was my thinking too.
Author light2 Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 Hey guys thanks for the replies. Sorry I am late to respond cause I just wrote my exams. I found it kinda ridiculous she would just sit on the couch 1min away from the library and refused to let me bring her to her seat. Her bags and everything were inside. But yeah, its pretty much over, i put up with a lot. Whenever she talks to me on phone or in person, she is rarely smiling or happy, but she tells me its not cuz of me. But once her friends guy or girl calls her, she talks so happily it made me sick.... anyways thanks for advice, if any1 has anymore i would happy to read it.
kashmir Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Likely Reason #1: I'm meeting someone (male or female) who I don't want you to meet or to know about you for any variety of reasons. I'm hiding you from someone I know. Likely Reason #2: I'm not actually going to where I say I'm going. And I don't want you to know where I am going. And who or what would you possibly want to hide from your boyfriend? OP, put two and two together.
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