iwanttolive Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 This is my 5th broken relationship. I'm so tired. He told me he did not love me as much as he thought. Why is it that none of my former bfs loved me wholeheartedly? Am I not worthy to be loved? I see many guys adore their gals to death, I wonder whether I will ever experience that in my life. Am I a loser? I wish...I could know some of you here, who are going thru the same ordeal as me. Christmas is coming n I'm afraid...
alwayssme Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 dont think that way. And about you seeing so many guys adore their girls? Well trust me even THAT could fade. My ex was the perfect boyfriend to me, yes he really liked me and everything, said he loved me..everyone thought i was the luckiest girl for having him, including me. Then one day OUT OF NOWHERE he tells me he has no feelings for me anymore..no explanation as to why or what caused that...then after awhile we try to be friends, he acts cold and now we dont even talk anymore. Leaving me hurt and with a broken heart while he's out there flirting with other girls and not even thinking about me. So no your not the only one feeling hurt, believe me your not alone. But dont even think your not worthy of being loved because of this.
You'reasian Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 This is my 5th broken relationship. I'm so tired. He told me he did not love me as much as he thought. Why is it that none of my former bfs loved me wholeheartedly? Am I not worthy to be loved? I see many guys adore their gals to death, I wonder whether I will ever experience that in my life. Am I a loser? I wish...I could know some of you here, who are going thru the same ordeal as me. Christmas is coming n I'm afraid... Do you do anything that contradicts your desire to be loving and giving of yourself or in a monogamous/loving relationship? We guys wont love a women wholeheartedly unless we know that you're actions are in line with what you feel about us. Some of us watch you very carefully
Author iwanttolive Posted December 5, 2008 Author Posted December 5, 2008 Then one day OUT OF NOWHERE he tells me he has no feelings for me anymore..no explanation as to why or what caused that...then after awhile we try to be friends, he acts cold and now we dont even talk anymore. Alwayssme, thats what just happened to me. He was so loving, always telling me he loves me and loves me lot, always making sure im alrite out of his own will.. and yesterday he told me he's afraid his feeling has changed... it's like being hit by a truck suddenly.. if this can happen, why should i even put effort in a relationship?? why do i even enter a relationship!! It's so unfair. It's so painful. It ripped my heart slowly, u know im feeling the physical pain in my chest? How do i stop this pain? only time can heal, so i have to endure this pain until time heals...
Author iwanttolive Posted December 5, 2008 Author Posted December 5, 2008 Do you do anything that contradicts your desire to be loving and giving of yourself or in a monogamous/loving relationship? We guys wont love a women wholeheartedly unless we know that you're actions are in line with what you feel about us. Some of us watch you very carefully Youreasian, anyone could tell i loved him alot. He even told me that he could see how much i loved him and he's afraid he would hurt me one day. And he just did...
alwayssme Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 i know, i believe its the worst thing that can happen in a relationship when the person u love "loses feelings" and its very very painful...i guess we just have to deal with it...now my ex is flirting and talking to his ex g/f...the one right before me....im scared they might get back, but this is love i guess...it hurts when it goes wrong but one day i do believe u move on and find someone else to love...its just a HARD painful process till u get there...this forum is helpful though
sedgwick Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Okay, people? YOU'RE is a contraction for "YOU ARE." The "A" is being taken out of "ARE," and the apostrophe stands in for it. This would be the correct spelling for such phrases as "You're not worthy of love." YOUR is possessive. Ways in which you would use this word might be "Let's take your car" or "Where is your house?" As yourself if what YOU'RE trying to say is in line with YOUR writing. For example, the username "You'reasian," is spelled correctly, if what the person is trying to say is that you are asian. However, the above user's statement, "you're actions are in line with what you feel about us," is incorrect. The actions to which he is referring belong to the woman to whom he is speaking; thus, it should be YOUR. Carry on.
kizik Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Sedgwick, as annoying as misspellings are to you - this is not a place to correct grammar, it's a place to share stories and encourage. So let it go. You ARE worthy to be loved. We all are. Unfortunately, because of past experiences including abandonment during childhood, many of us subconsciously pick people who are not right for us, and/or who are abusive to us. I think you need to take a break from dating for about a year and try to find out who YOU are, without the illusion of a man. So many women get their self-esteem from male attention, and that is really unhealthy, IMO.
replicator Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 This is my 5th broken relationship. I'm so tired. He told me he did not love me as much as he thought. Why is it that none of my former bfs loved me wholeheartedly? Am I not worthy to be loved? I see many guys adore their gals to death, I wonder whether I will ever experience that in my life. Am I a loser? I wish...I could know some of you here, who are going thru the same ordeal as me. Christmas is coming n I'm afraid... Hi there... A lot of us are going through, or have gone through the same emotions as you. You need to believe that you are worthy to be loved, not to just make yourself feel better, but because it's the truth. It is completely ego shattering when someone leaves you. I'm still getting over my break-up, and it's been several months. It takes getting used to, to be on your own after losing someone very close to you. With the holidays coming, it makes it more difficult. Hang in there, and use the board for support when times get tough. Good bunch of people here.
Angel1111 Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I'm sure you're worthy, even though I don't know you as a person. I believe everyone is worthy of love. I think maybe you're asking the wrong question, though. Maybe the question is 'what are you doing to push people away' or 'are you doing something to turn people off once they're in a relationship with you'. If you personally believe that you're unworthy of love, well as they say, be careful what you wish for. We can create our own worst fears just by believing them too much. Either you're doing that or you're doing something that comes across extremely negatively when you're with someone - like you might be unreasonble, or have a bad temper, don't take care of yourself, pick guys who are immature and certain to leave you, etc. I'm not sure what's going on but I doubt your problem is that you're not worthy of love. Maybe with a little introspection you'll be able to figure it out.
Recommended Posts