shockandawed Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 This still seems pretty vague to me. What has transpired in the last 3 months with her? Please explain the relationship a little. I don't know if this has been strictly a phone or IM thing or if you have actually dated.
Author fivefive Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 no we were heavily flirting with each other..i asked to hang out one time but she was out of town and i have yet to ask her back out..we were defeinitly close and really into each other. but i pretty much messd it up by ignoring pruposely in order for her to gain more interest, which was prolly there already..
shockandawed Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 How do you knonw her? How were you flirting? In person, IM?
Author fivefive Posted December 8, 2008 Author Posted December 8, 2008 we are in a couple classes together in school...we flirted a lotttt
shockandawed Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 OK, In my opinion, regardless of age, three months is way too long to just flirt. I don't think the problem is the ignoring, although that is stupid and doesn't help at all. The bigger problem is that she has apparently just lost interest. You can only keep an interest so long without a next step happening. She showed clear interest to you and all you would do is keep flirting. That is the problem. Only you and your actions will be able to determine if all hope is lost. So, how do you fix it? First, you have to look at why you are in this position? Your actions, or lack of, showed her you were weak, indecisive or just not that interested. Your subsequent game playing only confirmed this in her mind. Since she was initially very interested, if you can reverse these thoughts and you may have a chance provided she hasn't found someone else. You can erase these impressions by changing the behavior which gave them to her. Instead of flirting and ignoring, call her on the phone or go talk to her in person. Look her in the eyes and tell her you would like to take her out. Don't dwell on any of the reasons why she hasn't been talking, etc...just simply tell her you have really grown to enjoy her these last couple of months and you would like to take her out on a date. So what if she turns you down? At least you will know what's up and will have shown her you can be confident and decisive. Please learn from this as well, regardless of what happens, and don't be such a "mansy" going forward. I hope it works out.
Author fivefive Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 UPDATE: I IM'd her the other night and she seemed really happy to talk 2 me again. I figured IM'ing her would be less intimidating for her and me and that it would break the ice between us in scool. Well I IM'd her and she seemed elated and surprised that I had IM'd her. She even brought up the fact that we never talk anymore and that we haven't talked in a while. Well it did break the ice in scool and we ended up talking for the whole class we had together. IDK if her feelings r the same but that's something I'm gonna work on building up again. I flirted with her a lot while we were talking both on IM and in scool and she seemed to love my cocky and funny attitude. I'm glad we're talking again and im gonna try and ask her out on a date soon.
belladonna Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 You better hurry up! It seems obvious that she likes you in some way or another so get to it
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