spupwc Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 been on here a few times and i will make this short... ex wife dumped me for someone else for 2 mths, had second thoughts and took me bak for 2mths, and cheated on me while we were living together for a cuple mths, I moved out and she is with him like the day after I moved or probably that same D*** night I left.. we have kids from other relationship , I have 1 that lives with me, she has joint custody of three.. my attorney says I can go for allimoney since she makes 70k and i make 40k.. as a man shud I? I m struggling with starting over, she has house and everything including new man... I want to for the justice of it all u know wat comes around,goes around!!! wat do u guys and gals think of this?
Author spupwc Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 we r still married, didn't want to confuse anyone wen I said ex
carhill Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Did you co-habitate prior to getting married two years ago and what's your prospective liquid settlement? What is your custody agreement as to the support of your child? Can you live solo on 40K in your locale? Those are some questions I'd ask... I'd personally avoid alimony if possible, philosophically. Practically, hey, get whatever you can. Make a better life for your child
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 You are entitled to it, but I'm not sure that's what you are asking. Is it okay to do it just to be vindictive? Not really. Do you need the money? What other pros and cons do you face? My exH makes about 10K more than me but we split everything down the middle and there is no alimony or child support. He tries to pay a bit more for child expenses, and I enjoy a very flexible guilt-free schedule because I have a busier life than him, and he is usually available to take the kids last minute. I would never want to lose this.
reservoirdog1 Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I get what you're asking. I think you probably should -- there's a huge disparity in your incomes. However, for your own benefit, you should get it temporarily, and see about getting a higher-paying job. Because I think it could be a bit of a drain on your self-esteem, and a bit emasculating, to get alimony long term. It kind of sucks I guess, given supposed gender equality, but the reality is, I think it'll make you feel bad. If you can look at it as a temporary thing, that's okay -- you got the short end of the stick in everything else, so why should she get off scott free? BTW, why did she get everything? Aren't you entitled to a share of the house equity?
lkjh Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Your ex-wife cheated on you and caused a your divorce. Now days people are equal and its ok to ask her to pay for what she wants. I would take some just on principle so she can remember what she did and learn from it.
Gunny376 Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 FREAKING HELL YEA! Even if you don't need it to live on, put it in a tax deferred college savings acount for the kid's college education. Same rules apply, if she wants to play, then she's going to have to pay! As I said, I would put it aside for the children's furture if nothing else. College is damn expensive ~ even if they go to a state school. Let alone a private school.
Lizzie60 Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I'm not quite sure I understand: we have kids from other relationship , I have 1 that lives with me, she has joint custody of three.. my attorney says I can go for allimoney since she makes 70k and i make 40k.. as a man shud I? Did you have kids with HER? or are these kids from a previous relationship?
Author spupwc Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 thanks for all ur replies, to answer ur questions, this is our second marriage and the kids r from our first, we don't have kids from each other and for the past year I have been working for UPS part-time to get full-time (gotta build up seniority to get in) and in the mean time am working a second job till then. (she's an RN)once I m full-time, my yearly income will increase signifficantly but that mite be in another year yet. so I m struggling... she decided to buy a house 6mths into meeting me, I did'nt move in right away till a year into our relationship,( I didn't want to rush into things like my first rel.)anyway we were married 2 yrs. she cheated and dumped me to the curb),I moved out, he moved in and hear I m. hope I'm clear enough explaining,sorry if not!!
Mr. Lucky Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 alimoney I think you've invented a perfectly descriptive word ... Mr. Lucky
Woggle Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 If you can get it take it. She would do the same if the roles were reversed.
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