jamie2002 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I would like to know how you as narcisstic people view relationships and life. When you get involved with a female in a relationship what are your real intentions? When you are making new friends why do you want to bond with them and what are certain types of people you bond with? When you say you love someone what does that mean to you?? How you do view your family? And how do you think they view you? I am very curious from your side!!! I do hope that someone who is narcissitic can answer at least some of my questions.
kizik Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I try to exploit people for money while looking into a pond, admiring my own reflection.
Author jamie2002 Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 So money is your only want? I realize how you admirer yourself but is that truely your only want? Does love mean anything to you? Or do you just crave status and control?
2sure Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I would like to know how you as narcisstic people view relationships and life. A true narcissis doesn't know that is what they are. They would never feel there is anything wrong...thats the point. A selfish person might be able to answer your question - but again, selfish is different.
grogster Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Having just returned from my NA ("Narcissist Anonymous") meeting (of one) and pausing while I put my mirror down (what a perfect face I have, sigh) to type, I must say that I don't care about you to bother responding. What have you done for me, lately? Now, back to my mirror...
Author jamie2002 Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 grogster.. Please continue to stare at yourself in the mirror and i am not bothered if you don't want to reply to my questions.
Author jamie2002 Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 I am not asking if a narcissist thinks anything is wrong with them. I am asking the questions above and would like there views on them.
kizik Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Jamie, you need to turn your sarcasm-o-meter on.
D-Jam Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I would like to know how you as narcisstic people view relationships and life. When you get involved with a female in a relationship what are your real intentions? When you are making new friends why do you want to bond with them and what are certain types of people you bond with? When you say you love someone what does that mean to you?? How you do view your family? And how do you think they view you? I am very curious from your side!!! I do hope that someone who is narcissitic can answer at least some of my questions. I'm not narcissistic, but I will ask you...do you tend to date narcissistic men? If so...why? When you see they are narcissistic, do you stick around and try to get him to value you more? Or dump him immediately and look for a more thoughtful man? If you don't like narcissistic behavior in males...then don't date those guys. Dump them when you see they are like that. Don't sit here trying to understand the behavior or trying to find some "edge" to use to tame into into a RL. It reminds me of the women who try their hardest to push and convince the commitment-phobic male to commit, when there are loads of men around her who would commit, but she rejects.
Dexter Morgan Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I would like to know how you as narcisstic people view relationships and life. When you get involved with a female in a relationship what are your real intentions? When you are making new friends why do you want to bond with them and what are certain types of people you bond with? When you say you love someone what does that mean to you?? How you do view your family? And how do you think they view you? I am very curious from your side!!! I do hope that someone who is narcissitic can answer at least some of my questions. I don't think a narcissist will answer because they don't think or realize they are narcissists.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 There is a self admitted N on this site. Search Humbleman. He's got a thread out there and is supposed to be starting group therapy.
carhill Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 IME, most narcissists prefer real-life validation of their ego, so seeking it on an internet forum of anonymous participants is likely low on their totem pole of priorities. Hence, IMO, they do not exist here, at least as active posters, even if they were so inclined to recognize signs of narcissism and analyze them for public consumption. The answer to your OP is relatively simple. The world exists to service the narcissists id. That is their truth. Any process is a means to that end. EOS.
kizik Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 There is a self admitted N on this site. Search Humbleman. He's got a thread out there and is supposed to be starting group therapy. Yes, and even Humbleman resists suggestions that he is "empty" and uncaring about people, though he will voluntarily describe to you ways in which he does not give a f*ck about anyone. Fascinating and disturbing person, as they all are. Just don't date 'em, you'll end up like me: constantly questioning yourself and trying to recover your damaged self-esteem.
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 NPDers are one of the most difficult to help. Even if you can get them into counselling, which isn't an easy process, they'll deny their issues. It's all part of the disorder, a vicious loop. My ex-H is a diagnosed NPDer. He's still in therapy 1.6+ years later. It has helped but for him, he had motivation and...errrr...encouragement to do so.
Author jamie2002 Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 To answer you question Djam- I did date one man that was narcissitic but at the time i had no idea. He was everything that it says about narcissim but when i was with him it was a very slow drain so everything was twisted around and manipulated and i was the supply. I am interested in this subject because i have gone through hell and just wanted to find out what there views are on these subjects in there own eyes from there point of view.. I am not with the guy anymore and havent been in years... I realized i might have attracted him because of my broken family in my life growing up.. believe me he was very careful with everything he did and said so unless you have been involved with an narcissist and can relate to the story then please dont judge me..
Author jamie2002 Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 To kizik- I can totally relate i am sure to your story.. and i am recovering a little each day.. the process is true hell though as you know.
Author jamie2002 Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 No he didnt drink much at all. And if humbleman would like to come to my thread and reply i would love to hear from him but i am not going contact him..that will be his decision or not.
carhill Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Yes, you might find that (little if any alcohol/drug use) to be a feature. No loss of control or perspective. Always on top of the game. I'd be curious to know if TBF's ex drank....
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 No, carhill, he wasn't a drinker, as defined by alcoholism or binge drinking. He was more concerned about staying healthy, although he did have a glass of wine or scotch here and there and a couple of times, got tanked with the boys. Nothing out of the ordinary.
carhill Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Thanks for that. I'm doing some research. No drugs either, I would presume. Emotionally reserved, though expressed appropriate actions or words for an event or circumstance, especially in public. Pretty close?
Trialbyfire Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Perhaps the better way to describe him was that he was very witty and flirtatious. Could also be very cutting. The chicks dig him.
Author jamie2002 Posted December 5, 2008 Author Posted December 5, 2008 Yes on my end car hill to the T... I know mine was a narcissist. The ladies loved him also..he was hot
You'reasian Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 Yes on my end car hill to the T... I know mine was a narcissist. The ladies loved him also..he was hot Phew! I wasn't sure whether or not I should post here, but you said the ladies loved him and he was hot, so that being said, I'm assured that this is not me... lol
Author jamie2002 Posted December 5, 2008 Author Posted December 5, 2008 I don't think you are my ex narcissist lol.. but if you are one i would love to hear about how you view things..if not that is also fine.. it fasinates me to see the other side of the persons views.. just my own therapy really..
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