prettybaby Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 make a lot more money than them? You may also add "very good looking" and "very friendly" lol How would a woman like that make you feel? Would you pursue her or would it actually make you more hesitant?
JoeNat Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 It all depends. I mean. Does she act like she is better then him. Does she throw it in his face that she makes more money. For example, you cant afford that so lets go, or I will get this bill if you want. That is smacking the guy who needs to feel like a man around his woman across the face. If she treats him like an equal and makes him feel like a Man then no, there shouldn't be any problems.
tanbark813 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 make a lot more money than them? No. How would a woman like that make you feel? Good that I don't have to foot the bill all the time.
allina Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 No, I don't believe so. I think that sometimes these "independent women" run around going on and on about how they have a job and how about they don't need a man and they have their own money. This turns men off, yet instead of realizing that they're being tacky and annoying these women claim that the man was intimidated by their success.
kashmir Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I wouldn't be that intimidated, but I'd think an ugly woman who made a lot more money would be more intimidating than an attractive that has a lot of money. Reason - you know the ugly woman didn't get anywhere with her looks. She has just as much and probably more smarts then her male colleagues. Some guys tend to assume that reason attractive women are in successful or powerful positions is because they are attractive, not necessarily because they have the brains. While this shouldn't be used as a stereotype, I have to say that I find it to be true in many cases.
tanbark813 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I think that sometimes these "independent women" run around going on and on about how they have a job and how about they don't need a man and they have their own money. This turns men off, yet instead of realizing that they're being tacky and annoying these women claim that the man was intimidated by their success. This is the most likely explanation.
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 This is a consistent topic on LS. It's okay not to be universally attractive. Whether it intimidates or turns men off, doesn't really matter. Stick to men who are attracted.
Author prettybaby Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 This is a consistent topic on LS. It's okay not to be universally attractive. Whether it intimidates or turns men off, doesn't really matter. Stick to men who are attracted. this doesn't even remotely answer the original post
2sure Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 The type of men that a well above average looking, socially adept, financially successful woman dates are NOT intimidated by any of those qualities. They expect those qualities. However, if the same woman wanted , for whatever reason, to date below her income or education level (for example) I can see how a man who pumped gas or had a GED (for example) might be intimidated.
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 this doesn't even remotely answer the original post There will be men who are intimidated, some just plain turned off because that type of woman isn't their style, and others who won't be intimidated but still aren't interested and others who find it a turn-on, in that they're attracted to a successful woman. The men who matter to a women like this, are the ones who are attracted. The rest are moot.
fral945 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 No, I don't believe so. I think that sometimes these "independent women" run around going on and on about how they have a job and how about they don't need a man and they have their own money. This turns men off, yet instead of realizing that they're being tacky and annoying these women claim that the man was intimidated by their success. +1. Anytime I hear a woman say "I don't need a man" I run for the hills.
Dexter Morgan Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 make a lot more money than them? You may also add "very good looking" and "very friendly" lol How would a woman like that make you feel? Would you pursue her or would it actually make you more hesitant? Not intimidated by a woman that makes more money. Hell, women's lib right? They can be my sugarmomma!! A woman that is very good looking? Not intimidated at all. But I'd be very aprehensive about a relationship with a woman that is since, in my experience, women like this are vain, think they are god's gift to men, and typically are fickle. I know, not all are, but I haven't seen many really good looking women that aren't full of themselves. Its a huge turnoff. Very friendly? Not at all. As long as the "friendly" doesn't translate into "super-flirt". Then again, not intimidated by such a woman, just turned off.
Trimmer Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I think that sometimes these "independent women" run around going on and on about how they have a job and how about they don't need a man and they have their own money. This turns men off, yet instead of realizing that they're being tacky and annoying these women claim that the man was intimidated by their success. This is the most likely explanation. I think this is a likely possibility, too. I've certainly been put off, or "not attracted" to women who exuded that arrogant, or "better than me" vibe - some of them may have been more rich and successful than I, and some not, but it wasn't about being intimidated (which I take to mean, I'd like to get to know her but I'm afraid of her) - it was just that they were unattractive, centering around attitude. I'm currently enchanted by a woman who is better educated than I, and probably makes better money, but those are not restricting my attraction because she does have a great personality ( and is really smart too, which is part of the attraction, and not "intimidating..." ) So one experience is certainly not "proof" but it is a counter-example.
Dexter Morgan Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 +1. Anytime I hear a woman say "I don't need a man" I run for the hills. That usually translates to, "if a man doesn't do exactly what I want him to do, and doesn't let me control him, he doesn't need to be my man" To which my answer is, "fine by me!" as stated, run for the hills.
Author prettybaby Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 lol thanks for your feedback guys
alphamale Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 make a lot more money than them? You may also add "very good looking" and "very friendly" lol How would a woman like that make you feel? Would you pursue her or would it actually make you more hesitant? my personal experience has been that women that are very successful and very attractive are few and far between. unfortunately the ones that do exist are generally not very nice people
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 lol thanks for your feedback guys So are you a woman like this or what point are you trying to prove? I'm trying to understand what you're attempting to accomplish, if you're not a woman like this beyond encouraging the negative stereotype.
Author prettybaby Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 I'm not trying to prove anything. I was just curious.
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Okay, I'll give you my personal experience, as someone who is a career woman, who is reasonably attractive and friendly. My dating life hasn't suffered from being this way.
D-Jam Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 make a lot more money than them? You may also add "very good looking" and "very friendly" lol Doesn't bother me one bit. If she's totally into me, isn't expecting me to live some expensive lifestyle I can't afford, and totally good to me, then I hit the jackpot. If she's expecting me to marry her, give up my career, and be Mr Mom...then she and I won't get along. How would a woman like that make you feel? Would you pursue her or would it actually make you more hesitant? Like I said, if she's into me...then I wouldn't worry about it. My GF is going to Dental School. In 4 years she'll be making way more than me...but I'll love her anyway because she's wonderful to me (assuming of course we last, etc...you never know how things can suddenly change).
berrieh Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 For my age, I've made a lot of money (Big Career, Yuppie Money, right out of college) and not so much money (got laid off, decided to go back to Grad school); no guy has ever even noticed how much money I made. A few guys noticed my successful career, but mostly because it was a part of me. I'm assertive, smart, educated, and take-charge...while my being take-charge has turned off men on occasion, most of these qualities have been noted as positives by then men I've dated. The current guy's friends recently told me he was going on and on about how smart and educated I am. He has told me he loves that I have actual opinions on things because he met so many girls who didn't! As far as too pretty? I think it depends on the type of "pretty." Some men are turned off by women who are very "done" while others are turned on by this; I'm a girl next door type - very pretty, I think, and guys have called me "intimidating" (in a "I wanted to go up and talk to you but was scared you wouldn't give me the time of day") way because I'm attractive and because I'm a little bit quiet if I don't know you, but never intimidating in a "Thought you were a bitch!" way, so far as I know. But I can see how someone who looks like a "princess" type might get that. And friendly? How can one be too friendly? Do you mean slutty?
carhill Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Didn't we just have a topic on this? Anyway, I'd kill for a woman who'd fill my wallet and stimulate my...... mind
You'reasian Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 make a lot more money than them? You may also add "very good looking" and "very friendly" lol How would a woman like that make you feel? Would you pursue her or would it actually make you more hesitant? Wasn't this issue addressed in another thread? To answer your question: no. I've dated women who make more than I do, some who may be considered good looking and very friendly. What matters? Her moral compass, personality fit, how well she takes care of herself. Dress size doesn't matter. Weight doesn't matter. What matters is how she wears that weight and how she carries herself. I know plently of males that are more picky than I am in the physical department, but I am more picky in the intangibles.
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Didn't we just have a topic on this? Wasn't this issue addressed in another thread? Yes and yes. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=170429&highlight=intimidated Where the OP herself, posted this: I don't believe in that. Guys are only intimidated by cold hearted women who think too highly of themselves. Being professionally successful + friendly & approachable aren't incompatible. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1926444&postcount=18
Author prettybaby Posted December 5, 2008 Author Posted December 5, 2008 Wow, you keep track of everything I say hahah I'm impressed! Again, I was just curious to see what guys really think about it. And I apologize for not having seen the previous topics.
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