Mikey Action Posted December 10, 2008 Posted December 10, 2008 1. Girl with alcoholic father = damaged emotionally. No other way to slice it. 2. You feel lame. Move on. Cowboy up. Smile and go date someone else. Hit on every attractive woman you see, amazingly enough I bet if you ask 10 to go out at least one will say yes. Unless you're a total freakazoid you can do 1:10. Heck pitchers bat .100, right? 3. If she's jumping from guy to guy, see #1 4. I've been told "I love you" while I was being dumped. It's counter intuitive. You know what that means in woman-talk? a. She's a bold faced liar. Only your roommate who saw her around you and is unbiased can make that judgment. Ask him. b. "you did some things to make me feel bad and even though I love you, I'm going my own way for two reasons. You hurt me. and you don't even KNOW WHY I'm hurting" Like Don Draper said, "the secret to women is they all have some mysterious wish we're ignoring". Men need the "what" women want the "why". Figure out the why and 90% of the time she'll take you back with a little 1-time to get un-angry 2-work on your part 3-seriously figuring out the "why". oh, and the real why? She'll never tell you that after the break up or during. To figure that out, you need to go back in time and think. Every month you've been dating? Go back one week. So. 1 year? it happened 3 months or so ago. The fact is, love is a combination of attraction and respect. Attraction is instinct. We like to look at who we like to look at. Respect? that's not instinct.
Author xero Posted December 10, 2008 Author Posted December 10, 2008 Mikey, I actually have a lunch date tomorrow, but the fact is I'm not in a good position to start anything with being in a transitional time in my life. I may be moving anywhere next year. I had originally planned on staying here to be with her but this is no longer the case. My family does not live here or even close so if I stay here it would have to be because of love. The fact that even if I wanted a second chance, say a year from the breakup, may not even be possible due to where I'll be living. But then again, I may get a job here. I'm kind of confused about what you're saying about the go back 1 week for every month thing. Also, I'm confused about the "work on my part" this seems counter to the whole NC thing. I've spent more than enough time on the why and I don't think there is one other than we got off to a bad start with both of us breaking up with people soon before we started dating. I explained this in the letter I wrote, about things I did wrong, and things she could have done differently. It seems that NC would still be the best. She can continue to have desctructive relationships and the fact that she has no desire to talk to me is enough reason for me not to talk to her. I was the chasee for so long, but not anymore. I told her back in September that I would call her in a few months. Well, it's been almost a few months. I wonder if she's expecting a call? Not gonna happen. I don't even think I'll send the card now. I seriously hope this guy cheats on her or she falls for him and then he dumps her and then lies about the reason. Just for some karma.
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