Tryng2Trust08 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Me and my boyfriend dated for 7 months, and he ended up calling things off after the relationship bing rocky. I agreed with him, I didnt like how he ended things, cancelling a date we had, but things just weren't working out. He tried very hard for our relationship,but something was just not right, I was nervous and uptight. He said he wanted to be friends & I am someone he really cares for, but take a little break and he would get in touch with me in a few days. Well, I was really upset about this, and I lost it, just upset about how everything went down and thought I could talk to him. He talked to me and said for me to relax and we would talk once we both settled down. That wasnt ok with me, he hurt me and wanted to talk in a few days? Well, I couldnt relax, not sure what came over me and it ended up with him saying to never contact him again. I have texted and called him with no response. I feel completely empty and lost, we were best friends and now nothing. I don't know what to do, no one has ever just stopped contact with me. At this point I feel like a failure and I could never have a decent relationship again
Cub Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Hmm. Actually, he was halfway on point - you need to take this time away from him to step back and assess what went wrong. If you were "nervous and uptight," you were probably pulling away from him, right? So he pulled back and let you have your space. Now all you can do is wait and let him come to you when he's ready.
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 Yeah, you are right, but I just couldn't relax, I really tried, but something sent me over the edge. I wish I would have just settled down, but I thought he was playing games with me. I have a feeling me and him will never speak again and it hurts really bad. I hate living with the regret, if only I would've relaxed and let him have some time.
selim Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Me and my boyfriend dated for 7 months, and he ended up calling things off after the relationship bing rocky. I agreed with him, I didnt like how he ended things, cancelling a date we had, but things just weren't working out. He tried very hard for our relationship,but something was just not right, I was nervous and uptight. He said he wanted to be friends & I am someone he really cares for, but take a little break and he would get in touch with me in a few days. Well, I was really upset about this, and I lost it, just upset about how everything went down and thought I could talk to him. He talked to me and said for me to relax and we would talk once we both settled down. That wasnt ok with me, he hurt me and wanted to talk in a few days? Well, I couldnt relax, not sure what came over me and it ended up with him saying to never contact him again. I have texted and called him with no response. I feel completely empty and lost, we were best friends and now nothing. I don't know what to do, no one has ever just stopped contact with me. At this point I feel like a failure and I could never have a decent relationship again Sounds like a pretty selfish act by him, but people are selfish for the most part, and love sucks. I'm sure most people don't think you're a failure, and you shouldn't beat yourself up. People always feel this way, life sucks, ya know? Try to think of people that landed a perfect relationship first try, they don't exist! Most relationships fail, and in the end even if the relationship was a bad one, or a brief one, most of the time somebody, or even both people involved end up getting hurt... I'm about to go see a doctor, and I might be put on meds for it. I sucks, I know, I personally won't let this happen again, because the next time I get involved with a girl, and i'm sure I will, I won't attach so much emotion to that person. In the end, we really only have one person to blame for getting hurt, ourselves. And sure, we all have to take the bullet at least once in our lives to learn from our mistakes, it's kinda like the old saying, "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me". It all boils down to one thing when it comes to relationships or companionship, whatever you want to call it, it boils down to the fact that most people are desperate, including me. I just posted on here as well, if you want to take a look heres the link, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t172071/. It might make you feel better to read some other stories too.
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 Yeah that's how I approached this relationship, I held back a lot because I was hurt very badly by my exhusband. So, I figured I wouldnt let myself get in too deep, but in the end I was cheating myself out of what could've been a great relationship. He tried soo hard for me and I kept pushing & pushing to the point where now he is gone. All I can say is I tried my hardest, I really think I hurt him and that's the last thing I wanted to do. He was always there for me, if I would've seen it then unfortunately I am seeing it now and its just too late.
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