SomeKid Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Okay so me and my ex were together for 3 years, nearly 4 years before we broke up. We were best mates before we got together and the relationship had only brought us closer to each other. This was until around the start of Winter when we both became very busy. I got a apprenticeship as well as school and my other job, and she had two jobs, school and a couple of out of school activities to balance. This brought us apart but i decided to just tell myself it will all be fixed up after Winter as we will be able to see each other more often. After Winter my apprenticeship ended and i had a lot more time on my hands but she still had a lot of things going on. I decided I would see her when I could, but still give her the space she needed as she was very stressed. A couple of weeks ago she told me she wanted to end things because she needed a break. The next day I seen her and the first thing she did was throw her arms around me and tell me how sorry she was to do it but I had to push her off as it was difficult for me as I didn't sleep all night and was trying to get the concept of not being with her anymore and this just kept mixing my thoughts. Once I did she gave me the cold shoulder for a few days before I asked if she was angry at me, she said no but I realized the space would be best for both of us so I let it go. After another week she started flirting with me, which she denied, but was obvious due to her not giving me this attention when we were together. I took it as her wanting the relationship back and confronted her on it, but she said it was just to be friends and asked me if I would do the school dance with her. I thought about it for a couple of days and decided to tell her no due to this just making things harder for each other if she gets with someone else, and this dance being 6 months away, though practice starts now. I told her I couldn't do it because of this reason, and that I was prepared to be mates, but no closer than I am with any other of my female friends. She then told me she was sorry and just really confused. We had a bit of a talk and she said that if she were going to come back it wouldn't be until around February due to her not wanting to rush into anything but told me not to get my hopes up. I don't know what to do. I know I should move on but I want her back so much.
SoStupid Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I think you both need to sit down and ask each other if you are what you both want.. NO MORE GAMES its yes or no. If both of you conclude you do or dont, then dont let things in way of relationship, or off u go to find a better interest, People that love you find time for you and dont put things infront of things they love.... Find someone that has time for you! That is interested in you and your life.. -SS
Author SomeKid Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 I think you both need to sit down and ask each other if you are what you both want.. NO MORE GAMES its yes or no. If both of you conclude you do or dont, then dont let things in way of relationship, or off u go to find a better interest, People that love you find time for you and dont put things infront of things they love.... Find someone that has time for you! That is interested in you and your life.. -SS Sweet thanks for the reply. Yeah that makes a lot more sense, she just keeps telling me shes confused and needs time to think so that's why I've sorta been putting it off..
Cub Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 In general, confusion means she's troubled about choosing between two or more choices - that means you aren't her first choice. Forget that! You play seconds to no one and nothing.
dns502475 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 In general, confusion means she's troubled about choosing between two or more choices - that means you aren't her first choice... Hey SomeKid, Cub hit the nail on the head. It sucks, but this girl is trying to spare your feelings. She likes someone else.
Author SomeKid Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 In general, confusion means she's troubled about choosing between two or more choices - that means you aren't her first choice. Forget that! You play seconds to no one and nothing. Thanks. Yeah I see where you coming from. I think i was just to busy trying to deny things. Hey SomeKid, Cub hit the nail on the head. It sucks, but this girl is trying to spare your feelings. She likes someone else. Yeah I see. By holding me off shes using me as a rebound if things don't work out with her first priority in other works. Hardest part is all of my mates have become her mates so were sorta seeing a lot of eachother, making it a lot harder to forget about her. Guess its time to cut the leg off..
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