DSM-IV Tom Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 If you were broken up with, and you tried in any way to get the person back and were denied, CUT OFF ALL *** **** CONTACT. NO EXCEPTIONS. CUT IT OFF. I cut it off and then my ex came crawling back and I started talking to her and she ONLY FOUND A NEW WAY TO RIP MY HEART OUT. Listen to dns, listen to me, LISTEN TO EVERYONE HERE WHO SAYS DO NOT SPEAK TO YOUR EX AGAIN. CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE IMMEDIATELY, or you will face EXCRUCIATING PAIN. I feel like instead of blood in my veins, there is liquid pain.
Cub Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Sorry you had to learn the hard way, but good advice nonetheless.
Gremio Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 If you were broken up with, and you tried in any way to get the person back and were denied, CUT OFF ALL *** **** CONTACT. NO EXCEPTIONS. CUT IT OFF. I cut it off and then my ex came crawling back and I started talking to her and she ONLY FOUND A NEW WAY TO RIP MY HEART OUT. Listen to dns, listen to me, LISTEN TO EVERYONE HERE WHO SAYS DO NOT SPEAK TO YOUR EX AGAIN. CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE IMMEDIATELY, or you will face EXCRUCIATING PAIN. I feel like instead of blood in my veins, there is liquid pain. I've said it hundreds of times before but no one listens. DON'T GET BACK TOGETHER IF YOU EVER BREAK UP. IT WILL NEVER WORK OUT! You broke up for a reason and it will happen again.
dns502475 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 If it's any consolation...anyone going through a broken heart has done the exact same thing. Gremio's right, there have been dozens, if not hundreds of people who have preached the gospel of no contact. And they've done so due to experience. For instance, guys like him and Sysyphus have been ardent supporters of no contact, biting down on something hard, and moving on. And he's right that most people don't listen (I'm not talking about you here, but people in general). All most people want to hear is how to get their ex back..."how can i get him to love me" or "how can i get her to love me?" The good news is that now you know that it's really, REALLY over! If I may ask, what happened?
Nikki Sahagin Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 OOOOOOO well I took the ex back only because for me it was not over. I still don't know if i've really made the right choice but i've learn loads of sobering lessons. I no longer believe any relationship is forever and I no longer look into the future. I no longer fill relationships with endless expectations. I think you need to learn to have NO expectations of what may be in a relationship because even if you get it, there's nothing guaranteeing it will last. Never give 100% trust. Trust but not blindly. Keep your wits about you and trust your instincts. And if you feel you are right about something and they are just not understanding/listening, DON'T back down. You feel something is wrong for a reason - don't let another person devalue your own instincts, emotions, thoughts etc.
dns502475 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 OOOOOOO well I took the ex back only because for me it was not over... Hi Nikki, First of all, it sounds like you were very hurt by whatever happened. I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like your ex-boyfriend did something very wrong and you decided to end the relationship as a result. Most of the people here were in love with someone who didn't feel the same way and were "dumped". In these situations the relationship never works out.
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