Gremio Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Yeah, Rod, I did and we went out last night. No, he's not Latin. He's Australian. OMG, I REALLY hope he doesn't read LS!!!!! How would he know who you are? Don't you use an alias?
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 No, Cherry Blossom is my real name. My parents were hippies. Yeah, I use an alias, but I gave away too many details.
norajane Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 How would he know who you are? Don't you use an alias? Unless she's Chinese, I doubt her real life name is Cherry Blossom. But, she's given enough details...if he went to the movies with her last night and had that awkward conversation with her yesterday, he'd recognize himself. CB, don't sweat the details. You had a nice time out with him, and he wants to see you again, so you'll probably have a nice time out with him again. That's what matters as long as you don't start taking it too seriously. Time for serious may come later, and you'll know when that is. For now, you're just getting to know each other and having a little fun. Good on you for knowing not to take his flakiness personally.
rod_in_gtown Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 I wouldn't put too much emphasis on the change attempt, he may just be a little oblivous to the way things like that can be interpreted as. I know some guys out there who are clueless about the signals they send. I'm glad you had a nice date, but all in all it seems like he may be very casual about the whole thing. Is he older? I just had a friend (about 35) date this other guy (about 42) be very flaky after a night of making out and fun. Is he recently divorced or dumped?
Gremio Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Unless she's Chinese, I doubt her real life name is Cherry Blossom. But, she's given enough details...if he went to the movies with her last night and had that awkward conversation with her yesterday, he'd recognize himself. I know that! Hah. But I do have a real life nickname I use online also, but chose not to her to remain anonymous. I too have had the feeling that maybe the person I was once interested in would read a post I wrote about her, but who knows. It's all a mystery.
Isolde Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 It's possible that he was busy and wanted to defer to a time when his mind was less cluttered? Guys are sometimes not the best at multi tasking.
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 I wouldn't put too much emphasis on the change attempt, he may just be a little oblivous to the way things like that can be interpreted as. I know some guys out there who are clueless about the signals they send. I'm glad you had a nice date, but all in all it seems like he may be very casual about the whole thing. Is he older? I just had a friend (about 35) date this other guy (about 42) be very flaky after a night of making out and fun. Is he recently divorced or dumped?[/quote He is 3 years younger than me. I know his last gf dumped him, I don't know why. I know that because someone else told me, not him. I think that was last spring. Yeah, I kind of got the feeling that he was tired, and that was why he wanted to change the date. But he obviously perked up when we were out. There were a few yawns during the movie. I think the fact that he wanted to set up our next date at the end of this one says a lot. But anyway, I think my perspective on dating has really grown even within the last year. I'm really not taking things as personally (except for my long term crush, but that's a whole 'nother story). You just never know what is going on with people when you meet them. You don't know what stage in life they are at, you don't know what demons they are struggling with. It is is easy to blame ourselves for everything but that is kind of pointless. I'm not saying we shouldn't examine our behaviours and feelings, I'm just saying that we needn't take on all the blame for failed dating scenarios/relationships. I don't even want to call them failures, because I think that's a misnomer. Maybe non-starters is more apt. Thanks for your wisdom, Norajane, Rod, Gremio, Isolde. Did I miss anyone?
You'reasian Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Oy. I wrote about this guy on my last thread, The Facebook Curse, and now I'm wondering what to do. If I was talking to a friend, I would say, don't call! Let him call you! But I kinda want to call. Brief review: Know a guy professionally, he expressed interest in hanging out, so we met up with some of my friends. Everone liked him, he liked them. It was a teeny bit awkward at first because I know him from the job. But that didn't last long and we talked easily about a lot of stuff. We don't work together, and I don't see him that often, and everything's above board as far as that goes so I don't need to hear any advice about that. On the way out, he kissed me, kinda like a little peck, but on the lips, which definitely "let me know" that his interest was beyond friend. He called me about something work related this weekend, although it really didn't have to do with me. Saw him briefly Monday, and he gave me the long, lingering stare as he waved goodbye. So......it's Wednesday. The reason I'm thinking of calling him is because I'm not sure he knows that I'm interested in him. He did say that we should do this again, and I agreed, but he seems a little bit shy. He also gets a little nervous around me, in a cute way. Or am I being ridiculous by thinking of calling him? So I was thinking I would call to say hi, later on tonight, close to the end of the calling window in case he calls me. Is this a good idea or are you all going to save me from myself?? Sure. Give him a call. If I were the guy, I'd be okay with it:confused:
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