Bells Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Okay....you're out with your friends, most of them are a mix of single males and females, out at a party or something, or a BBQ. Booze starts flowin', people are giggly and having fun. A couple of guys start to subtly grab women's tops and bottoms....guess what...the girls let them...and they get giggly and laugh. Some guys think it's cute, and the night continues on with a night of "Feeling people up" Of course, in the mix, there MIGHT be some people that aren't into that kind of thing. My question is...are you one of those types that participate in this kind of thing....or completely turned off by it. SOmetimes I sit back and laugh while they do it. But I wonder if some people are turned off by it?
Star Gazer Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Do you honestly think uou have to ask if some women would be turned off by being groped??? *facepalms*
prettybaby Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Uhm yeah, nobody's allowed to touch me unless I consider a relationship with them. That being said, stuff like that happens all the time. It's the context: party + singles + booze ... not shocking lol
Author Bells Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 Do you honestly think uou have to ask if some women would be turned off by being groped??? *facepalms* Happens where I go, apparently some women do enjoy it. I'm proud to say I do not participate in such things. I'm just not wired that way.
wisebutnotperfect Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 seems like your hesitation with being involved in the flesh grabbing probably comes from someone teaching you the word respect. bottom line.. the people involved are not respecting the women and the women are not respecting themselves. if you are there to try and find a relationship look out.. i've always heard "once a slut always a slut" this is pretty harsh but i really think that people develop patterns of behavior based upon values and those values rarely change.
JamesM Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 If it were she and I alone, then yes. But when it is a group thing, then I cannot turn into such a fool. (Yes, alone I can be a fool. )
Author Bells Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 seems like your hesitation with being involved in the flesh grabbing probably comes from someone teaching you the word respect. bottom line.. the people involved are not respecting the women and the women are not respecting themselves. if you are there to try and find a relationship look out.. i've always heard "once a slut always a slut" this is pretty harsh but i really think that people develop patterns of behavior based upon values and those values rarely change. Yeah, I could easily tell the ladies from the "other"...esp due to the body language....the "Please don't touch me" body language. As fun as it looks, just doesn't seem to be my cup of tea in mixed company.
Author Bells Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 I think I am what people refer to as "low-key"
PrincessPeach Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Most girls will say we don't like it, regardless of whether we do or not. With me as long as there is some level of attraction (it could be very small) I'd be fine with some light grabbing in that environment from a guy I know well enough. As long as the grabbing isn't prolonged and is in a lighthearted atmosphere I actually kind of like it. A lot of other girls probably like it too. Though they won't admit it. Once they get in the situation and caught up in the moment though, they'll be into it (especially if alcohol is involved).
catastrophe Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 A LOT of girls will get caught up in the fun and enjoy it - then justify it later. But, I don't see the harm. What is disrespectful about having fun if you are single? Why is it disrespectful to flirt and be physical? Sex is a great thing. Flirting is fun. Men enjoy it, Women enjoy it - it makes the world go around. I don't understand why getting a buzz, laughing, and frolicking with the opposite sex is 'disrespectful', especially if the women are enjoying it. That kind of thinking is old fashioned and kind of lame, in my opinion. Of course there is something very sexy about a shy, reserved good girl who won't do that kind of stuff - but most of it revolves around trying to get her to finally do it with YOU!
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