bkaz01 Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 so here it goes... i have been with a girl for three years and i love her more than anything About 11 months ago we had our first big breaku p and i was hard it went form her never wanting to talk tome or see me again to coming over having sex and hanging out again and back and forth around march we got back together and it was never the same she only wanted to hang out durring the week but never on the weekends she never wanted to see my she wanted to go out to bars with her friends and we would always fight about it she said its how she wanted things to be and itold her its not helping out relationship. so in september we broke up again and it was the same patern she didnt want to see or talk to me then she would she would come over we would hang out have sex then she would start again sying i cant talk to u or see u. she would say she is dating other guys but to be honest i dont know if she was saying it to make me mad or if she really was cause we talked all the time. we will go days with argueing then the next we will get along and talk normal for a week then it gets messed up again she send me messages saying she misses me and want to see me then doesnt come over so all last week we were real cool thanksgiving she wanted to come over but said she couldnt cause she had to work so fri comes around and she goes out and on her way home she calls and says she wants to come over and i said i dont think its a good idea i wantto spend quality yime with u not just a hook up so sat we talk and all is good then we both go out and i see her and go up to her and try to say hi and be nice and she acts rude and is like dont talk to me leave me alone blah blah blah so im like what the hell and 2 days later yesterday she is like leave me alone til friday and ill talk to u i need some space if not im changing my number what do i do i really wantto be with her and i definatly am not going to call but what do i do
Paralyzed Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 What's the deal? The deal is get the hell away from her. I have been doing this with my gf for a year now. She is up and down like a yo yo. It has caused me a great deal of emotional trauma. I think this girl is using you. She doesn't want you anymore, but, she doesn't want to be alone. She only wants you on the weekday's because she is bored and lonely. On the weekends, she gets a chance to go to clubs and meet guys. She can't do that with you around. Once she finds a guy that interests her, you won't hear from her again. Even during the weekdays. She will have a new guy to cuddle with then. Drop this girl now. Don't contact her ever again. And don't wish her well either. Just dissapear. Karma will bite her in her slutty ass someday. Don't worry.
Author bkaz01 Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 iagree but its so hard as much as i want to leave her i want her as well she shows signs of interest then backs away and it drives me in sane.....and sorry aboutthe spelling i have a lot going through my mind and i am typing with out paying attention i need help with this situation
Geishawhelk Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 This isn't love, this is need. You can't honestly hope to establish a stable, happy, constant and smooth relationship when someone in your life is playing with your emotions, blowing hot and cold and bouncing around like a loose super-ball..... Hurt as it might, or will - you need to value yourself a lot more and back away from this. She has no right to mess with your mind in this way, and you must stop giving her the permission to do so.
Author bkaz01 Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 and to add to all of this confusion she is a diabetic who poorly controls it and bi-polar syndrome runs in her family and when we first started dating she took prozac for anxiety i dont know if all these factors lead to mood swings
californiadreaming Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I am new to all of this too, We have totally different stories, but coming from where I come from, If I were you I'd move on. All she is going to do is cause you more pain. At this point your pretty good, and although it maybe painful, I'd say keep busy. I am not one to talk because I am honestly a major wreck right now too. But, after this many break ups and her playing with your emotions, you might as well call it quits.
Geishawhelk Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 and to add to all of this confusion she is a diabetic who poorly controls it and bi-polar syndrome runs in her family and when we first started dating she took prozac for anxiety i dont know if all these factors lead to mood swings I'll say. You are also, furthermore then, not professionally equipped to deal with this side of her. This needs more than TLC. You can't be expected to, and shouldn't be expected to be able to cater for these factors on your own. If she won't help herself, how the hell can you be expected to? Run, run like the wind, and don't look back.
Author bkaz01 Posted December 6, 2008 Author Posted December 6, 2008 so today she called me in the morning and got rude and said i cant talk to u anymore it was nice not having to call u she said she was going to change her number and did its the worst feeling in the the world how could she be telling me a week a go she wants to see me and come over and on monday say she wants to hang out and take the dogs to get pics w santa and now all of the suddne want to never see or talk tome again im so hurt lost down and confused
Vince Black Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 Run...don't walk. Sorry brother, but that's the way I see it for now.
Gremio Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 what do i do i really wantto be with her and i definatly am not going to call but what do i do Look at yourself from out of body. Read this topic thinking someone else posted it and you will understand what I mean. Why in the ****ing hell would you want to be with someone who makes you feel like ****??? Do you honestly know how insane that sounds? /rant I'm sorry if I'm too blunt, but think about the situation. You are not in control of your emotions at all and because of that, you will only get hurt more. If you got her back as you say you want to, I can gaurantee you'd be back here in the future with the SAME topic. I'd put money on it.
Author bkaz01 Posted December 7, 2008 Author Posted December 7, 2008 i am more upset about the fact of her changing her number now beacuse down the road i will neve be able to call her just to catch up i dont wantto talk to hr now but its the future that makes me upset knowing i may never be able to contact her again
Gremio Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 i am more upset about the fact of her changing her number now beacuse down the road i will neve be able to call her just to catch up i dont wantto talk to hr now but its the future that makes me upset knowing i may never be able to contact her again Why would you want to? She manipulated you. I know it will be hard, but forget about her and move on. Spend more time with friends, work harder on your hobby, etc.
Author bkaz01 Posted December 16, 2008 Author Posted December 16, 2008 its so hard cause she says she wants her space changed her number and less than a week later (this past thursday) she came ove and wanted to have sex. all i want is her number to show her i wont bother her that is part of the reason she changed it cause she said i called to much but i wonder if i let her go if she will come crawling back..
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