Bells Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 ...would you do this? I have met a few women here and there in their early 30's that have been married 2/divorced 2 times already. One says she'll remain a bachelor indefinately (her choice I suppose), but I wonder how many people who divorced THIS many times in such a short time frame would even be advisable to date? Would they even be good for stable relationship? I got into a conversation with this said woman...get into the head of someone who has been divorced two times before the age of 30s. We talked bout dating in general, and how my friends got hitched, and aren't much for going out and socializing anymore. She said she used to do that, NEVER again...she's involved with a guy now..but she makes sure to make some "Me" time for her as well...but she divides up between her "me" time and when she sees him. So she's not "joined at the hip" like some couples are (This could be another topic). Anyhow, I know there are alot of you NEVER been married people here....so if you found out if someone has been married 2 times in such a short time frame.....would you question it?
Author Bells Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 *Bump* Guess someone missed this one. lol
D-Jam Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 If I met a girl who was into me, but she had been married and divorced two times in a short time period...then I'd give things a shot, but I would not give her deep commitment quickly. So if she's suddenly pushing for a ring 6-12 months into it, I'd cool her jets. Take things slower, let it build and grow, so I won't be divorce #3. As for the woman who says she'll remain a bachelorette indefinately, I would probably believe her...but also know that it might be also her way of saying "don't even think about asking me out". Seen one too many women use the "bachelorette indefinately" line, but didn't mean it. Was more her way of rejecting me before I even made a move...especially when they're calling some other guy "boyfriend" within a matter of weeks. I think it's great though those women are learning BALANCE, which I get the vibe they didn't know before. I have a feeling they used to be the types who found a man and then made the RL 100% of their lives. They couldn't go do anything without some sort of approval of their men, and would not go out socially anywhere unless their men were with them. They basiscally didn't have their own lives, which I think they're trying to do now. It's like I keep saying, treat a SO as an added bonus...not your entire existence. I wish them luck in their lives.
Krytie TV Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Anyhow, I know there are alot of you NEVER been married people here....so if you found out if someone has been married 2 times in such a short time frame.....would you question it? I may not count because I have been divorced as well, but all I'll say is that you might be amazed at how quickly a partner can turn on you if they are not at a good maturity level. Sure, there were some signs I ignored before marrying may ex, but I didn't listen. However, that would never have indicated the raging bi*ch she became after the marriage. I had no choice but to leave her for all the abuse and ridicule I took. Same for women, I'm sure. It maight have a lot to do with the person in question. Or maybe she married someone whio became abusive (flag), grew apart from someone, whatever. People are far different in their thirties than in their 20s. Give people credit for being able to grow up.
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