Brendi_thesnake Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Really don't we tend to overdo it with the whole cheating/infidelity thing. What I'm trying to say is that if you really think deeply, the one you're hurting is only a complete and random stranger who can replace if it doesn't work between both of you. It's nothing compare to actually hurting a family member. My older sister is married and as much as I always had a crush on her husband I would never hurt my own blood. That's not think but worrying and crying about hurting your SO, please give me a break. So why must we worry about hurting a stranger, that's the question if eventually he/she can be replaced easily while your blood stays on you forever, thus can't never be replace. By the way I'm currently in a 4 month relationship and no I'm not cheating, but I'm not making into having melodramatic scenes.
awesomeness43 Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 It depends on the relationship... some people just haven't found that type of connection or aren't mature enough for that type of relationship =/
Author Brendi_thesnake Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 I think so but see in reality when you say that you fallen in love, that's really crazyness. It's more of something you create within yourself, an illusion, thus it's your own image.
Adunaphel Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 If my SO considered myself "a random stranger" jealousy would be at the bottom of the list of my relationship problems. My best (same sex) friend is not a stranger, either... I consider her more than a sister.
OpenBook Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Really don't we tend to overdo it with the whole cheating/infidelity thing. What I'm trying to say is that if you really think deeply, the one you're hurting is only a complete and random stranger who can replace if it doesn't work between both of you. Yes, we can never REALLY know another person. That said, I hope I never mate with someone like you. (Not intended as an insult. Just not somewhere I want to go.)
Walk Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Family can be more distant then your SO. I know someone who hasn't talked to his siblings in decades due to the fact that they were stealing their mothers money, the mother couldn't buy her prescription pills, and she died. I rarely see my sibling except on holidays. He's cheated me so often that I'm wary of dealing with him. Personally, family is fine. But they can also be strangers. Our connections with people are determined by the effort and time we put into them. Whether that's family members, a close friend, or an SO.
Walk Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 I think so but see in reality when you say that you fallen in love, that's really crazyness. It's more of something you create within yourself, an illusion, thus it's your own image. Family is an illusion also. It's a desire to create a small community of people who share the same genes as you. Potentially they share the same ideology and values as you do. Family is a way to feel a part of something without having to work hard at it. You're included because you were born. Easy enough. You're grammar is... rough. Is english your native tongue?
carhill Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 IMO, "family" is only imprinted as more important because of their role during the formation of the brain's structure and input. It's an emotional bond at the earliest stages of life. Think about adopted/orphaned children who never know their "family". Who are those genetically similar people to them? Strangers. I tend to judge people strictly by how they treat me and value me. That applies to family or "strangers". No one gets a pass because of "blood". It's a very liberating feeling. We're all part of "something". It's called life and the human race.
Author Brendi_thesnake Posted December 5, 2008 Author Posted December 5, 2008 You're grammar is... rough. Is english your native tongue? Yes it is my native tongue and so is spanish.
Gremio Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 IMO, "family" is only imprinted as more important because of their role during the formation of the brain's structure and input. It's an emotional bond at the earliest stages of life. Think about adopted/orphaned children who never know their "family". Who are those genetically similar people to them? Strangers. I tend to judge people strictly by how they treat me and value me. That applies to family or "strangers". No one gets a pass because of "blood". It's a very liberating feeling. We're all part of "something". It's called life and the human race. Agreed. I have never been treated worse in my life than by my own family. Not even SOs who broke my heart did such despicable things.
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