crazieshnurple Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 So I come on here quite a bit to read the threads but I don't think I've ever posted (maybe one along time ago) but I just have to get this out. Don't really know what I'm looking for, maybe just encouraging words. I met my current boyfriend a year and a half ago... we became "official" the third time we hung out, and I love him more than ANYTHING. He is my best friend and my life. He is a year older than me, so he went to school somewhere about a half hour from where we live and stayed at home because his parents are not helping with his college education at all, and he got almost a full ride at this school. When it came time for me to make my college choice, 8-9 months into our relationship, he pressured me to go to the school I had always wanted to go to even though it ws 3,000 miles away. I decided to go, and we decided to do an open relationship because I wanted to see what else was out there but we did not want to let go of each other. Fast forward three months... I had gone out with some different people, hooked up, etc. and realized that was not what I wanted at all and that my boyfriend was the only one for me. He did not see anyone else during our time open because he said that he already knew I was the one and that he wanted to marry me. Now that I've been with other people I feel the exact same way. We decided we wanted to be together so we have been working very hard on his transfer applications so he can come down and be with me. His parents are very supportive and just want him to be happy. When I told my parents about it, however, they were very nice and made a lot of sense but basically told me that it was a bad idea, if it's meant to be it will still be meant to be in four years and that if he comes down they will cut me off financially. I am very close with my family and don't want to cause isses so my boy and I have been discussing alternative options. He has always wanted to be a marine like his dad but I was always kind of [sIZE=2]against it because it worries me. However, we are now considering the option of him joining the marine reserves because that would be a really good compromise for everyone. He would get to join the marines, which he has always wanted to do, he would only be in the reserves which makes me feel better because he would probably be deployed a year tops, my parents would be happy because during his year of training and such we would be kind of apart… he is going to try to get stationed in my state so he would be about two hours from me, so we could see each other once every week or two but not be living together and additionally that would help pay for his college education which was a worry of ours. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2] When I go home for winter break next week I have to talk to my parents about all of this… I emailed them a few days ago saying I wanted him to come here, they emailed me back and we haven’t talked since. I know we have a lot to talk about it’s just that I know I want to be with my boy but we’re not stupid; we know we’re not invincible and that things do happen (even though we love each other more than anything and have an open, honest, loving relationship) but now I’m just worried that things won’t work out and we won’t get to be together here which is the thought I’ve been holding onto for the last three months; just waiting for the day we can be together again because we literally saw each other very day for a year and then it just stopped when I left. I’m worried that he’ll be deployed and get hurt and I don’t know what I would do without him, I wouldn’t have a purpose to live. He really wants to marry me before he enlists but I know that’s a bad idea… but I do want to marry him before he gets deployed. I don’t really know the point of this post, I don’t have any questions or anything, I guess just if anyone has a similar/encouraging story I would love to hear. Thanks. [/sIZE]
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