jessm Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 I have been married to my military husband for more than 2 years. I have a child from a past relationship. Now, it seems that me and my husband have grown apart. We have no children. We don't see each other much although sometimes he calls but we just argue especially if he is at home. I know he loves my son because he shows it to him. He cares and very protective with him. But our relationship is falling. I know I cannot divorce him just now because from what I've read from this military divorce information site. Servicemen can waive and refuse divorce papers while they are on duty overseas. What should I do? And what will happen to me and my son? Will I get spousal support from him? I cannot support my son alone.
LakesideDream Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 I have been married to my military husband for more than 2 years. I have a child from a past relationship. Now, it seems that me and my husband have grown apart. We have no children. We don't see each other much although sometimes he calls but we just argue especially if he is at home. I know he loves my son because he shows it to him. He cares and very protective with him. But our relationship is falling. I know I cannot divorce him just now because from what I've read from this military divorce information site. Servicemen can waive and refuse divorce papers while they are on duty overseas. What should I do? And what will happen to me and my son? Will I get spousal support from him? I cannot support my son alone. Two years married and you can't manage to support a child that isn't your husbands? Sounds like bad planning to me. It's not your 2 year married husbands responsibility to support your child from another relationship. Most folks here would call you a gold digger. I won't because I know what a serviceman makes. I'd call you a copper digger. Why don't you tell him you've found someone else, and want a divorce so you can get on with your life?.... oh yea, you need your allottment to support someone elses child. I guess you are stuck for awhile. Enjoy his allottment while you can.
pelicanpreacher Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Two years married and you can't manage to support a child that isn't your husbands? Sounds like bad planning to me. It's not your 2 year married husbands responsibility to support your child from another relationship. Most folks here would call you a gold digger. I won't because I know what a serviceman makes. I'd call you a copper digger. Why don't you tell him you've found someone else, and want a divorce so you can get on with your life?.... oh yea, you need your allottment to support someone elses child. I guess you are stuck for awhile. Enjoy his allottment while you can. :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: Would that make her a copperhead?!!
In Like Flynn Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Once you divorce his responsibility ends!!! No medical....nothing because the boy is not his son. Spousal support depends on the state you live in.....but just two years you won't get anything anyways!!!
Gunny376 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 If you divorce your military husband, you will get nothing in the form of spousal support, Zilch, nothing, nada. Depending upon his rank and brach of service, he will more than likely be forced to live in the barracks, on base, be issued a meal card, and eat in the dinning hall. You won't get child support because he's not the father of the child. Having been married only two years, there's no way you'll get allimony. You will also lose your medical, dental, commissary, PX and MWR priviledges. Of course, you could always hook yourself go out into the ville and hook yourself another miltary man. I actually meet a woman in her fifities, who had been married for ten years each to four different men, each on in the military, one in the Navy, one in the Army, one in the Air Force, and her last in the Marines. She was drawing half of the first three's retirement check. And never served a single day in the military.
carhill Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 What should I do? And what will happen to me and my son? Will I get spousal support from him? I cannot support my son alone.Get educated and get to work. It's an equal opportunity world we live in. That also means equal responsibility. Your son has a father. Where is he? If he's alive and not in jail, the law will compel him to help you financially if you're persistent. Beyond that, learn a skill/trade/whatever and figure out a way to support yourself and your child. Work from home; work around your child's school hours; figure out a way. Over beers, a good friend and business colleague asked me when I realized I'd be working the rest of my life. I told him age eleven. For him it was eight (his family farmed). There's really nothing special about women which negates that reality. Get going
T-returns Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Carhill with excellent advice again. OP, what motivates you? What do you want to happen? Work it out with your husband in marriage counceling. It will all come down to how seriously each of you took your vows. The weakest link can and will break it. I wish you the best. P.S. Carhill...are you ever on ICQ? Tried contacting you there but it seems you are never online. :-( ICQ 365041713
TrustInYourself Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Work on a marriage before you decide to trash it. Especially since your husband is now the only father your son has ever known. Marriage isn't just romance and fairy tales. At the least, better yourself with school, education, and some self reflection. Otherwise, you'll be back in another marriage with the same issues, but with more children. Think about it.
ilmw Posted December 6, 2008 Posted December 6, 2008 I have been married to my military husband for more than 2 years. I have a child from a past relationship. Now, it seems that me and my husband have grown apart. We have no children. We don't see each other much although sometimes he calls but we just argue especially if he is at home. I know he loves my son because he shows it to him. He cares and very protective with him. But our relationship is falling. I know I cannot divorce him just now because from what I've read from this military divorce information site. Servicemen can waive and refuse divorce papers while they are on duty overseas. What should I do? And what will happen to me and my son? Will I get spousal support from him? I cannot support my son alone. I thought it takes 2 years to get to know your spouse... and you and your husband are drifting apart?? Wow.... so, what was your marriage based on in the first place? Besides.... your husband cares for your son ... as his own... Hmmmm... he can't be all that bad.... can he? You need to think about this "deep.. long... and hard" Before you make any life altering decisions....
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