katrik Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 I haven't tried online dating before, but I dont go to school anymore and its tough to meet people. I'm an east Indian but I did my schooling here, still because of my skin color it makes life realy difficult meeting girls...esp. online becaz they think I am the usual guy who is trying to hit on every white girl they meet... Anywayz my point is what would be the good way to start an online conversation Hi!! wats up? Hi!! how was your day? Hi!! how are you? Hi!! how you doing? I tried all these and even tried commenting on their profile sometimes but nothing seems to work 80-90% of the time. Am I doing something wrong? and what kind of conversation you girls like to have when you meet a new guy online? other than usual boring stuff like weather or something I know it differs from every one but lot of ideas will make something happen....
Angel1111 Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Most of those questions sound like something you'd say to someone you've already had a few conversations with. For just starting out, you'd probably do better to just say hi and mention what about their profile interested you. Probably what's happening is that even before they reply, they look at your profile and may decide that they don't have anything in common with you. You're not going to click with everyone, and just because you send a message to them doesn't mean they're going to answer. I really doubt it's completely your approach. Women know that guys are just trying to find something to talk about. It's a combination of things and being online doesn't make the complications go away.
SierraRose Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Let me give you a woman's point of view... many of the IMs I have gotten are started the same way you start. I can tell you 90% of them turn sexual within the first 3 lines-that is why I have learned to ignore them right off the bat. I know you are being sincere, but tons of men out there aren't. My suggestion is if you are going to make first contact based on a profile, comment on something of interest to her..."hey I see from your profile you like to go to concerts..what music r u into?" Something like that which is more personal rather than the genaric hello. Have you tried dating sites? Try the free ones first..I like Plentyoffish.com, Yahoo personals...then there is always Match.com, but it costs $$. All I can say is when you approach a woman, either in person or the internet, let her know there is something unique about her that has attracted you to her. That is what makes her feel special, not that she is just a recipient of a line...Good luck!
Perry Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Can you show us your profile, and one of the girl's page you are trying to get to know? "wats"???? There's one of your problems.
Habibti Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Where are you from? I looooove east indian men.
Author katrik Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 Hi Perry!! This is my profile but I have modified some stuff, you know why.... " I recently moved to**** from **** I dont many people here and I like meeting new people. I am honest and fun-loving... I am alwayz up for anything which is fun, I started snowboarding last season so would love to have a companion to roll down the hill together..I mean slide down the hill. I love to travel, thinking of Euro trip or Australia trip any takers? other than that I am not a fitness freak but I do work out often... and I am hip-hop/break dancer and have learnt different styles. I'm looking for some one who I can have fun and enjoy the time when we are together..." I dont find anything wrong with this, but feel free to comment. Sierra/Angel111: I had few conversations(msg) with couple of girls online but I never said anything sexual. But still???? I have already registered in couple of sites you mentioned and thats where I had these problems. Some times all I say is hi and looks like they havent even looked at my profile but my msg is deleted....I am not unattractive but I am not Brad Pitt/ George Clooney either Habibti: I am from Canada(East Coast).....?
Angel1111 Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 If I read your profile online, I'd pass on it because you sound like a party guy. "Anything which is fun" is actually an improper sentence - it should be "anything that's fun". Still, sounds like a party guy who hasn't grown up yet. I especially don't like the "thinking of Euro trip or Australia trip any takers?" comment. It's an inappropriate question and sounds like it was put there to impress women. You may want to work on your profile a bit.
movingonandon Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 you need to accept that you being a foreigner and non caucasian automatically diminishes your our odds with some girls in the dating pool. That's right, I just said it. Just a fact of life in the US, nothing to get worked up about, but to be aware of. You'll be surprised how many girls want to marry a "Ken". BUT: not all of them. So, you need to be patient, and perhaps more importantly: a lot more polished in your profile and initial interactions than the run of the mill regular joes need to be. Create the best profile you can, and show'em who's a true gentleman. Oay more attentioin to how you dress, what types of fun you engage in, etc. Plus you've got a couple of centuries of colonial pizzaz on your side! Bust it out, man!
Jenny123 Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 Hi Movingonandon- ur hilarious! I like u train of thought:)
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