AL24 Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Hi all, Maybe there's someone out there who can give me some advice on this. I'm 24 years old and I've dated the same man twice. Once was several years ago, second time was 9 months ago. Both times I broke it off after several months because the timing just wasn't right, and because he lived several hours away. We stayed in touch after the second breakup, talking on the phone occasionally and seeing each other, though lately we've been communicating less. Several months ago I visited his town and he took me on a very fancy and romantic date, which was very very very flirtatious but nothing physical. But otherwise, I have been in a serious relationship, and I'm sure he's been seeing others as well, but I'm not entirely sure. Just recently, we ran into each other in his town (I was traveling there for work). We spent one night together talking and hanging out and finally kissing (that's all!). He murmured that this was probably a "terrible" idea and that I was clearly "trouble". The next night, he took me out on a romantic date (paid for everything) and we ended up alone and kissing again (just kissing!). So, now I wonder what to do. I realize that I want to be with him again, and since I will probably be moving to his town within the coming 3-6 months, I'm no longer worried about the distance issues. I'm ready to be serious with this guy, and I hope I don't have to wait 3-6 months to move closer to him (what if he meets someone else before then?!) The problem is, we don't see each other often, nor do we talk very often on phone/IM. The holiday season is coming up, and we're both grad students, so we're both VERY busy. Do I hang in there and wait for him to approach me next? Or do I call him? Contact him? I'm not really the type of girl to contact guys (ever) but I do understand how this time around, the burden might be on me to initiate. What do you think? Thanks. AL
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