trixy Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 This is a complicated situation so please bear with me. I am a single parent with a six yr old son, I have been with my boyfriend for about six months. We love each other. He has a daughter who lives a flight away and he goes to visit her evry four weeks. When he visits her he stays with his ex, they do not get on that well at times and she is a control freak. There is nothing going on between them. His daughter (and ex) are coming to to stay with him at his home next weekend. I have not met his daughter yet. His ex has said that she does not want to meet me or for me to meet his daughter. he says that there is nothing he can do about it but I feel that if he really wanted me to meet his daughter then he would find a way to make it happen. Am I being unfair? Also we are spending Christmas together, which will be lovely but he may go out and spend new year with his daughter and ex. I know that he wants to see his daughter over the holiday period, but I find it very odd that he would want to spend new year with a woman he says he can't stand. I do not feel comfortable with the idea of his being with his ex for new year. Should I just get over it or is it odd for him to not be desperate to be with me. Is this situation ok or am i being foolish?
Geishawhelk Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Who's he doing this for? Not his ex-. He's looking to give his daughter as stable, trouble- and stress-free an upbringing as possible. he is already bound to his ex by the fact they have a child together, but the fact that the daughter lives with her mother could be a bad situation, if he goes against his ex's wishes.... On the face of it, she sounds like the kind of woman who might use emotional blackmail and bad-mouth him to her daughter. Try to be patient and supportive. If your Relationship is strong, and you marry, or at least become a permanent and loving fixture in his life, at one point or another, the daughter will meet you. And there will be nothing his ex- will logically be able to do about it. Good luck, hang in there, and try to chill. Just my two.....
Author trixy Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 Thank you, I guess I needed some reassurance that I was being played for a fool.
MN randomguy Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Doesn't sound too fishy, I don't have kids, but, I think its common knowledge not to bring a string of S.O.s in front of your kids. Does he have family in this "flight away" town? It would be nice if it made you feel better if there was some way he could step out the door after his daughter is put to bed.
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