Author prettybaby Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 Goddd, still no phone call!! How much time does he need?? I'll give it two more days before I officially freak out I guess. **sigh**
Star Gazer Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Goddd, still no phone call!! How much time does he need?? I'll give it two more days before I officially freak out I guess. **sigh** A week is PLENTY of time to get in touch with you. In two more days you should NOT "freak out." You should quite simply turn on your heels and walk. Easier said than done, I know. But... You want a guy who WANTS you and SHOWS you that, don't you? There are plenty of guys out there who will do just that, and not cause this sort of anxiety we go through.
Author prettybaby Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 The things is though, I KNOW he really likes me. I also know that he's pretty shy and he's totally single. Gahh
belladonna Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 3-5 days? Really.. I dunno maybe I'm too new to dating but I'd say more like 2 weeks before deciding he was not interested. Maybe he had plans last weekend and is waiting for this weekend to make some with you? I personally wouldn't send him any more texts, I think you've made the point clear that you want to see him again. It sucks worrying though..I majorly did that a few months ago, I worried myself sick I swear.
Author prettybaby Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 3-5 days? Really.. I dunno maybe I'm too new to dating but I'd say more like 2 weeks before deciding he was not interested. Maybe he had plans last weekend and is waiting for this weekend to make some with you? I personally wouldn't send him any more texts, I think you've made the point clear that you want to see him again. It sucks worrying though..I majorly did that a few months ago, I worried myself sick I swear. Yeah, I had intially decided to give myself 2 weeks. But then one day passed, then two, and I got sooo impatient and now I'm ready to run over to his house and rape him lmfao! Seriously though, he's into me, it was obvious. I think he's been single for quite a while now, and I'm analyzing what I did and said, and I don't know if I wasn't clear enough or what? I'm almost tempted to go like "You may proceed and call me NOW" ughh I definitely won't text though. Well, at least not for another 2 weeks at least
belladonna Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Yeah I know how that feels. But in my case..as soon as I decided to put him out of my mind and go out with my friends, he'd freakin send me a text asking me to do something while I was out. That happened at least 4 times before we started a relationship. But it was a different situation (lol I should make a thread on it). He might not want to sound desperate by calling so soon. Which I think is dumb, but some people think that way. When he calls he calls, and then you can ask him what took so long haha
Star Gazer Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 The things is though, I KNOW he really likes me. I also know that he's pretty shy and he's totally single. Gahh Uhhh, yeah. I felt the same way about my guy. When he was present, I was convinced he REALLY liked me. A fly on the wall would have agreed. However, when he was absent (i.e., not calling), that's when I figured out that I was either wrong in that assessment, or he's a runner.
Author prettybaby Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 I know he does though, there's no questioning that. And his texts are so sweet. I'm just wondering what could be going on on his side. Maybe he's sticking to some stereotypical time rule? Perhaps he's too shy? Maybe he just had a break up and needs some time to get back on his feet? (although I had the feeling his last relationship was quite a while ago; now I wish we had talked a bit more about it lol). Or maybe he has no idea where to take me next? I'm trying to analyze this right. I'm not gonna give up so quickly; it already took me a lot of freaking courage to contact him and then go meet up with him lol I will not let my efforts go to waste! He's the gentlest guy I've ever met, we have a ton in common and awesome chemistry. He really is the gentle, sweet, sensitive kind and it makes me melt even more. Mehh, I guess I'll just sit back and wait in silence. I'll be generous and give it two weeks before I consider the next step.
Star Gazer Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 I know he does though, there's no questioning that. And his texts are so sweet. If that's the case, why did you start this thread? If you were soooo confident in his interest level, and if you're right, why haven't you heard from him yet? A guy who's REALLY into you would never wait this long.
Gremio Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Yeah, I had intially decided to give myself 2 weeks. But then one day passed, then two, and I got sooo impatient and now I'm ready to run over to his house and rape him lmfao! Seriously though, he's into me, it was obvious. I think he's been single for quite a while now, and I'm analyzing what I did and said, and I don't know if I wasn't clear enough or what? I'm almost tempted to go like "You may proceed and call me NOW" ughh I definitely won't text though. Well, at least not for another 2 weeks at least Oh, do I know the feeling. Although the woman I'm talking to does call here and there, but our plans now seem to fall through. I too feel like yelling "I LIKE YOU". I had the feeling she was into me, and I know she has a lot going on right now (she has outright told me of some current issues), but I still get that gut feeling she either a) doesn't have the same feelings I do, or b) is completely unaware of how I feel, even though I told her last time we spent the night together I was seriously interested in her. Now about the rape part, I can't say that since I'm the male... but nice double standard there. Hah.
Gremio Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 If that's the case, why did you start this thread? If you were soooo confident in his interest level, and if you're right, why haven't you heard from him yet? A guy who's REALLY into you would never wait this long. Agreed. I already started the feeling and got the idea of letting go of the woman I'm interested in. I don't want to jump in even more and feel worse than I do now.
Author prettybaby Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 If that's the case, why did you start this thread? If you were soooo confident in his interest level, and if you're right, why haven't you heard from him yet? A guy who's REALLY into you would never wait this long. Why so negative? I already gave a whole list of reasons of why I'm worried he'd be too nervous to call. I'm impatient and needed to vent, hence this thread.
BlueEyedGirl Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Aghhhh... He is not that into you. You probably don't have much dating experience. In time you will learn to read the signs.
DollWelch Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Quite interesting how this situation panned out. I'll be generous and give it two weeks before I consider the next step. This is to long to wait. It's obvious. In my opinion, you made a huge mistake by forgetting your wallet, and allowing him to pay for the outing/date. He only kindly said some encouraging words to get together so as to gently let you down. I don't think he is interested. After about 5 days, you call it quits. Plus, I think the way he handled himself showed that he perhaps wanted to check how you were doing, not to get romantically involved. If a man is interested in a woman, he will call the very next day even if it means it's too soon.
Author prettybaby Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 I'm not trying to sound delusional here, because I do realize that him not being into me IS a possibility. However, my gut feeling was the exact opposite, and I'm usually pretty spot on with stuff like that. I've read so many threads on here about guys who were like "Help, I waited too long to call her and now I don't know if I should" etc. So many scenarios on here about men not grabbing an opportunity even though they want to, and yet, when I'm on the other side, people are so quick to tell me I'm too inexperienced and should face the fact that he resents me for forgetting my wallet and whatnot. Again, I realize that it is a possibility. However, I refuse to feel so negative before another week or so. I'm not going to text him or do anything pathetic, so don't worry I know the ball is in his court now and there is nothing more to do.
Gremio Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 This was about six days ago now right? Do you have any reason to not contact him if you're that interested?
Author prettybaby Posted December 4, 2008 Author Posted December 4, 2008 This was about six days ago now right? Do you have any reason to not contact him if you're that interested? Besides the obvious "I don't want to look desperate", no lol I must also add that I don't think HE has that much dating experience at all.
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