prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 I met up with that old crush of mine (see this thread right here). We sort of just met up last Wednesday around noon and ended up having (an unplanned) lunch together, which we decided on the spot as our conversation didn't seem to end lol I was gonna grab a sandwich around the corner and he asked if he could join me. So we had lunch, it was lots of fun, we talked for almost 2 hours total, and found out we have A LOT in common. I think he found me attractive, because I caught him staring at me a few times and he blushed several times as well, especially towards the end and when we parted ways on our way out. It was cute lol I must add: when the bill came, I realized I had forgotten my wallet (Gahhh I know!!!). I felt so stupid and apologized. He gushed and told me not to worry. So anywayz, when we left, I told him we should definitely do this again and to call me if he ever wants to go out together or something. He totally blushed and smiled and said something like "alright". The next day, I still felt like a moron about the forgotten wallet. I texted him this: "Hey, thanks again for yesterday, it was fun! Lucky you joined me, I would have stood there with no money!! ugh I'm so sorry. Call me if you ever wanna have something to eat or drink together or something, will be my treat!" He responded: "The pleasure was all mine! We should do this again. I'll call you. Take care. (his first name)" That was last Thursday. And I admit I was slightly disappointed today that he hasn't called me yet lol Although I realize it hasn't even been a week. How long before I should worry? What do you guys think? I'm so anxious
SoStupid Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 LOL take a deep breath..... I am sure he is thinking the same thing you are.. What about a simple, sweet text like hey was just think of you! hope your havin a good day! ..
Star Gazer Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 "Take care"? I hate that closing. Doesn't sound hopeful. But then again, my new guy wrote that to me and he's still very much around. Hmm. I'd give it a week since the text response, and then forget about it.
JoeNat Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Or, say something like "hey, was thinking of grabbing a drink or some food, are you free?" Something like that so it is kind off the cuff but giving him enough time to respond.. Us guys are just as worried about this as you females... Sometimes we like when the woman shows her intrest. Stops us from guessing...
Author prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 LOL take a deep breath..... I am sure he is thinking the same thing you are.. What about a simple, sweet text like hey was just think of you! hope your havin a good day! .. eeeek lol nooo **blush blush** I can't tell him that now lol We're not even dating or anything; just happened to have lunch together and that's it
Gremio Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 I know that feeling... going through it now. I'm interested in someone, and for the first time in my life, they're younger than me, which is rarer than winning the lottery. I have the feeling she's interested in me, that I wow her (based on things she's said about me), but sometimes she does go quiet. I just talked to a friend about this on the phone a little bit ago. I guess I have high expectations, but at the same token, I am self employed, whereas she has work and college. She has a lot more going on in life than I do.
Author prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 "Take care"? I hate that closing. Doesn't sound hopeful. But then again, my new guy wrote that to me and he's still very much around. Hmm. I'd give it a week since the text response, and then forget about it. lol We're not American. The take care is the only part he wrote in English, which I thought was kinda cute
Author prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 I know that feeling... going through it now. I'm interested in someone, and for the first time in my life, they're younger than me, which is rarer than winning the lottery. I have the feeling she's interested in me, that I wow her (based on things she's said about me), but sometimes she does go quiet. I just talked to a friend about this on the phone a little bit ago. I guess I have high expectations, but at the same token, I am self employed, whereas she has work and college. She has a lot more going on in life than I do. So what's the deal exactly? Is that poor girl also waiting for you to call her? If so, please do!
SoStupid Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Or, say something like "hey, was thinking of grabbing a drink or some food, are you free?" Something like that so it is kind off the cuff but giving him enough time to respond.. Us guys are just as worried about this as you females... Sometimes we like when the woman shows her intrest. Stops us from guessing... OP-Didnt realize that a lunch trip was all it was!! hehe But i do agree with JoeNat.. would def text him that.. see if he texts you back or interested at all.. -SS
Gremio Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 So what's the deal exactly? Is that poor girl also waiting for you to call her? If so, please do! No... I feel as if I contact her too much. It's a long story and honestly I feel a little awkward and stupid if I said it. Put it this way... I called her yesterday, she called me back last night to talk for a little bit, then said she had to run but would call me around an hour or so. I texted after a few hours to say I had a fun idea for us to do something today. It's 4pm now, I never got that call back, nor a reply from her text, and it's too late for my idea. I also called her once a little bit ago and got nothing. So many mixed signals... honestly I started getting that gut feeling that if she was interested she would be more available, but then I try to rationalize that she works full time and has college. All I can say is GAH!
Left in a Lurch Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 No... I feel as if I contact her too much. It's a long story and honestly I feel a little awkward and stupid if I said it. Put it this way... I called her yesterday, she called me back last night to talk for a little bit, then said she had to run but would call me around an hour or so. I texted after a few hours to say I had a fun idea for us to do something today. It's 4pm now, I never got that call back, nor a reply from her text, and it's too late for my idea. I also called her once a little bit ago and got nothing. So many mixed signals... honestly I started getting that gut feeling that if she was interested she would be more available, but then I try to rationalize that she works full time and has college. All I can say is GAH! I went through that a little while ago. She seemed interested, was nice and easy to talk to, but returned calls at the last minute or avoided me all together at times and then would call out of the blue a week later making me think she was at least a little interested. She had kids and said she was always busy and our dates ended early apparently because of the kids, so I figured she was busy. I thought the same thing as you, am I getting the brush off? I just moved on and about 2 months later I saw her and she was just about married to this guy I know. I ended up seeing her a few times and she had no problem finding time for him. When women are interested they want to be with you, otherwise they act like they are just too busy. Considering I work 10-12 hours a day and haven't had a vacation in almost 10 years, I know busy and I know bs. As busy as I am I can find time to be with someone I am interested in, no problem. Funny thing is I just heard this girl might need a favor from me and I have no doubt she will have no problem calling me right away for a favor. I figure if she calls I will tell her I am busy and to call me at 7:30pm, then when she calls I'll tell her I am still busy and to call me at 5:00pm the next day. There is no doubt that since she needs a favor, magically she will have all this free time and have no problem/excuses calling me back at a certain time. If the thought crosses your mind, she is not interested.
Gremio Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 I went through that a little while ago. She seemed interested, was nice and easy to talk to, but returned calls at the last minute or avoided me all together at times and then would call out of the blue a week later making me think she was at least a little interested. She had kids and said she was always busy and our dates ended early apparently because of the kids, so I figured she was busy. I thought the same thing as you, am I getting the brush off? I just moved on and about 2 months later I saw her and she was just about married to this guy I know. I ended up seeing her a few times and she had no problem finding time for him. When women are interested they want to be with you, otherwise they act like they are just too busy. Considering I work 10-12 hours a day and haven't had a vacation in almost 10 years, I know busy and I know bs. As busy as I am I can find time to be with someone I am interested in, no problem. Funny thing is I just heard this girl might need a favor from me and I have no doubt she will have no problem calling me right away for a favor. I figure if she calls I will tell her I am busy and to call me at 7:30pm, then when she calls I'll tell her I am still busy and to call me at 5:00pm the next day. There is no doubt that since she needs a favor, magically she will have all this free time and have no problem/excuses calling me back at a certain time. If the thought crosses your mind, she is not interested. I'm very firm in my beliefs, and I feel the same way you do. The situation I'm in is a tad different though. Honestly, never have experienced it this way before, which is why I have been keeping an open mind.
Author prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 So how long do you guys think it would take him to call? Is there some kind of male dating rule that I don't know about? I mean, his text seems very positive to me, but hey, I'm an optimist lol
Gremio Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 So how long do you guys think it would take him to call? Is there some kind of male dating rule that I don't know about? I mean, his text seems very positive to me, but hey, I'm an optimist lol I am as well. I'd say 3-5 days is long enough. Any more is too much. Of course, situations happen, but I would lower your expectations if that time passes.
Author prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 Booh. I guess I'll give it until Friday or something. I hate this.
Left in a Lurch Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 So how long do you guys think it would take him to call? Is there some kind of male dating rule that I don't know about? I mean, his text seems very positive to me, but hey, I'm an optimist lol I have had women advise me before to call the next day... and it blew up in my face. Personally I wait 3-4 days minimum. I tend to be shy and it can go as long as 5 days sometimes, but I usually won't call until I have an idea of what to do and on what day, and it depends on where the day falls. I usually won't call on a Monday or on the weekends, so if it wa a Friday "date" I would not call until Weds usually. Your best bet is to just text him something like, "Saturday- TGI Fridays. Be there at 7". If you did that I have a feeling it might be a relief to him and he would show up.
Gremio Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Booh. I guess I'll give it until Friday or something. I hate this. I'm going through it too... I said it before and I'll say it again... GAH!
SoStupid Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Booh. I guess I'll give it until Friday or something. I hate this. Good Luck Prettybaby!! i know exactly what your going through.. just hang out at LS untill friday!! hehe -SS
Author prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 Your best bet is to just text him something like, "Saturday- TGI Fridays. Be there at 7". If you did that I have a feeling it might be a relief to him and he would show up. Hmm that's not a bad idea. I might keep this one up my sleeve as a plan B for next week or something The man is gorgeous and I know he likes me. I'd hate for him to flake out, what the hell
Left in a Lurch Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 I'm very firm in my beliefs, and I feel the same way you do. The situation I'm in is a tad different though. Honestly, never have experienced it this way before, which is why I have been keeping an open mind. Not trying to be a downer, but that is just what I have experienced. They will go out of their way if they are interested, and if they are not, they will be the busiest person in the world. In normal conversation you will hear her say things like, "I went out with my friends last Friday", or "We went a saw ... movie", but she'll have a hard time setting aside 45 minutes for lunch with you. You will rank below a crappy movie! Then when you think you are getting the hint, she will call you and say, "Sorry I haven't called in a while but I was sooo busy!"- I say, just let me die already. Don't revive me just so you can stick the knife in again. I hope it works differently for you Gremio, but the signs seems to point to you being a free dinner ticket.
Author prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 Do you think he could be trying to figure out where to take me? He seems a bit shy, and I don't know how guys function once it's clearly established that they can ask a girl out and that they agree to it
Gremio Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Do you think he could be trying to figure out where to take me? He seems a bit shy, and I don't know how guys function once it's clearly established that they can ask a girl out and that they agree to it Haha we are so alike! So many questions, so many thoughts. Do what I'm doing... sit back and play the guitar! LoL
Author prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 Haha we are so alike! So many questions, so many thoughts. Do what I'm doing... sit back and play the guitar! LoL I don't play guitar! He does though!! boohh I'm okay during the day, but when evening comes, I'm just sitting here eating chocolate and keeping my phone close. Soooo pathetic.
Gremio Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 I don't play guitar! He does though!! boohh I'm okay during the day, but when evening comes, I'm just sitting here eating chocolate and keeping my phone close. Soooo pathetic. I hate to admit it, but I'm kinda doing the same. Soon as I'm done playing, I'm heading out for a bit to do some shopping. I won't buy anything, just want to get out of the house. The weird part of this is two days ago I was out shopping and I teased the woman I'm talking to through text about where I was (more of an inside joke with her and I). I told her I'll buy her a present from there jokingly, and we chatted back and forth for a bit. Then after a short chat, she said she'd love a surprise. The gift is completely trivial, it's one of those gifts that's more about the thought. I said it before and I'll say it again... GAH!!!!
Left in a Lurch Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Do you think he could be trying to figure out where to take me? He seems a bit shy, and I don't know how guys function once it's clearly established that they can ask a girl out and that they agree to it It can be a burden. I am not great at coming up with new things to do and sometimes I have suggested things I thought the woman would like and acted like they were ok with it but didn't want to go. Guys like to do guy things but we never know what women really want to do. Suggesting something girlie makes us come off kind of gay, and most women don't want to hang out and watch a game so it is a tough decision. Guys will go along with anything and not care too much.
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