Would you let your date, drive your car?

[Trialbyfire]

No, not just anyone. A friend for sure, those things are insured also, BUT many have great sentimental value.

 

I can understand I guess if it is something you've put your time and effort into, but a car is put in jeopardy each time you drive it. While you might not be questioning your own skills, my D is out hotriding moms car around to impress her BF!

No doubt my car is put into jeopardy each time I drive her but I'm fairly confident in my abilities to defensive drive. It doesn't mean that accidents can't happen or I never screw up but that's my car and my call. She's perfectly tuned and her paint looks like the day she rolled out of the dealership. I'm going to keep her that way until it comes time to sell her.

 

The same goes for wearing expensive jewelry. You could be robbed or accidentally lose it.

[berrieh]

Reasons for saying 'no' aren't always sentimental.

 

Insurance doesn't usually cover replacement value. It may not cover if someone else is driving. And if they're at fault, insurance goes up.

 

I don't love my car (though it's new-ish), but I'm too poor to risk something happening. I saved and scraped for this car!

[Bells]

Reasons for saying 'no' aren't always sentimental.

 

Insurance doesn't usually cover replacement value. It may not cover if someone else is driving. And if they're at fault, insurance goes up.

 

I don't love my car (though it's new-ish), but I'm too poor to risk something happening. I saved and scraped for this car!

 

Ditto Berrieh....exactly!

[serial muse]

Reasons for saying 'no' aren't always sentimental.

 

Insurance doesn't usually cover replacement value. It may not cover if someone else is driving. And if they're at fault, insurance goes up.

 

I don't love my car (though it's new-ish), but I'm too poor to risk something happening. I saved and scraped for this car!

 

That's pretty much my feeling about the issue, too. Plus, I'm ultimately responsible for this big hunk of potentially death-dealing metal. So letting someone drive it is not a light decision, that's all. I don't necessarily feel like I'd never let anyone touch a car I owned out of a sense of possessiveness - actually, I have let people drive it...meaning, my mother, my long-term boyfriend, etc.

 

But a brand-new person I've only just met (no matter how much I like him/her)? Yeah...no.

[RecordProducer]

I was out on a date with a girl...and she wanted to "try driving my car", it was one of those newer models, and I kind of looked at her and said, "No way, I don't let anyone drive my car, sorry."

 

I was wondering if I was being a numnut for not letting her, and she was wondering why.

 

I said it was an insurance liability.

I have let other people drive my car. It's not about a date, it's about letting someone else drive your car. I let a friend from NYC drive my car because I hate driving through Manhattan. He doesn't have a car (who does in NYC? ) and he's an aggressive driver, but I just have faith in people and I like it that way. I care about my safety a lot, but I can be lax about the risk of banging the butt of my car. As a matter of fact, I banged my Caddy off a low wall recently and I don't care. My husband asked me today when it happened and why I didn't tell him. I said "I didn't think it was important. It's only a thing and it's not the first time." It's not like I am going to report it to Geico.

 

You gotta take some risks in life and be somewhat nonchalant about it. Life is not all about reliability and security. Finally, it's mostly a money thing.

 

Frankly, if I were her, I would be disappointed that my date is a man who lives in a bubble. I would see him as a scared, insecure guy, afraid to lose a few bucks on insurance even though the possibility for that to happen is so slim. I don't mean to offend you; I just want to give you one perspective of women's psychology. But you never know; she might see you as a macho guy who doesn't let anyone touch his precious baby.

 

Of course, if I didn't like my date, I wouldn't mind saying NO, if that's what I wanted.

[2sure]

I have no issue with anyone driving my car. Regardless of its value. Lending it to a friend, no problem. Someone using it because its the last one in the driveway, sure. My neighbor's car in the shop - take mine!

 

But OP was on a first date. Those are unusual circumstances to ASK to drive the car.

[Bells]

Frankly, if I were her, I would be disappointed that my date is a man who lives in a bubble. I would see him as a scared, insecure guy, afraid to lose a few bucks on insurance even though the possibility for that to happen is so slim. I don't mean to offend you; I just want to give you one perspective of women's psychology. But you never know; she might see you as a macho guy who doesn't let anyone touch his precious baby.

This comment made me realize that you're the kind of woman to avoid.

 

Notice most divorces occur mainly due to financial situations. Your outlook on this alone is a gateway into your personality and lifestyle.

 

"Oh, it's only a few bucks". Wrong answer! And you're only delving into your OWN pysche'..not a woman in general. You're perception does not represent other women's.

 

You don't care about money, BIG red flag there.

 

If we were an exclusive couple, I wouldn't mind.

[Bells]

As a matter of fact, I banged my Caddy off a low wall recently and I don't care.

That's you're problem. You don't care.

 

You lack responsibility.

 

And the fact wether you like your date or not is irrelevant.

[curiousnycgirl]

Wow til I got to this post, I thought I was the only one! You guys must drive gold plated vehicles!

 

If someone wanted to drive my car, just to see how it felt, I'd toss em the keys. Way too many other things to worry about in life.

 

Having read all the responses, I realize my initial answer was way too cavalier. In the circumstances outlined, where it was the first time they met, etc. I would drive to an empty parking lot, swap seats (meaning i'd get in the passenger seat) and I'd let her have a test drive.

 

Make more sense?

[carhill]

That's you're problem. You don't care.

 

Though I was a bit shocked to read that from R_P, it does make sense. The person who cares the least has the most control

 

I know plenty of people who go through life careening from guardrail to guardrail, both on and off the highway. From their perspective, folks like myself are cautious and boring. Happy to hear that

[Bells]

folks like myself are cautious and boring.

 

I told you, you need to start watching more reality junk TV more often. Makes you sound less boring.

 

Anyhow, the poster IS married...but the husband doesn't care either. So I guess it works out that way.

[RecordProducer]

This comment made me realize that you're the kind of woman to avoid.

Isn't it great that you won't have to put any effort into ignoring them?

 

Notice most divorces occur mainly due to financial situations.

I think fights over finances occur as a consequence of lousy marriages, not as an immediate cause.

 

"Oh, it's only a few bucks". Wrong answer!

And who's the arbiter?

And you're only delving into your OWN pysche'..not a woman in general. You're perception does not represent other women's.

I am glad I am the only one - at least in something.

 

You don't care about money, BIG red flag there.

But they say men are like bulls, so red flags attract them.

 

You lack responsibility.

You lack responsibility for driving a car altogether. Do you know what the probability for you to die in a car crash is?

 

Anyhow, the poster IS married...but the husband doesn't care either. So I guess it works out that way.

Yeah, the poop met the pee!

Did I say he didn't care about it? Or do you think the only prooof that he cares about money is to divorce me over the scratched car. (Maybe he shouldn't let me drive it for six months or so to teach me a lesson ).