windows Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 As of this week; I've done away with the High School relationships in my life. A high school guy that's never gone out with a girl; never kissed a girl; never been to a party; no drugs; no alcohol and 2 rejections. I'm awkward; shy and a bit quirky (a bit less shy and more quirky of late though). Sure I fit in but I don't fit in at all. I have many friends but really not many friends at all. A drifter who has no enemies. The girls would rather those guys who are so much more 'interesting' than I. Even if those guys do sometimes sit around and make continuous penis jokes and sexual innuendo. I just can't comprehend why the one or two girls who did matter to me; would rather those immature guys than me; the strange, quirky somewhat interesting yet mature and serious guy. So I decided; give up on high school relationships: There is not one girl whom I could possibly be compatible with here. I don't understand the thrill of parties; hooking up and whatnot. I'm not like any other guy I know. I'm just the type of guy who doesn't get the girl in the end. This thread is basically my signing off of the LS website. To which I have owed a great deal in overcoming some of my fears of shyness and rejection in my life so far. Although I am much braver now when it comes to girls than before; I find little point in investing my heart into a time when the girls are just so incompatible with me right now. Thank you LS for helping me out during some times. With this; I close my chapter of High School relationships. (Who knows; I may turn up here again in 2 - 3 years time)
IrishCarBomb Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Well... I'm kind of womdering why I'm replying since you aren't going to read it... but I'll continue becuase I'm all revved up and posting already. Taking a break from relationships might work, but really it probably won't. From what I see the ultimate goal is that you need to realize that altough you think you're weird and eccentric, people will notice and respect your good qualities. High school girls may not be the most apt to give the validation you need to develop, but you really need to think about the alternative. If you isolate yourself from these relationships, it just creates a "self fulfilling spiral" of confirming your own weirdness. There is no growth--in fact there's regression that will be harder to overcome later on. Plus, the girls won't change when you get to college/university/etc. They'll still like the sexual joke guys and the other loud arrogant types. They'll still love to drink and party and hook up with those "immature guys". But that doesn't matter.... it really doesn't. The important focus is yourself... you have to open yourself to experiences that will make you develop and become more self-aware. It's going to be hard, frustrating, and seem futile... but the rewards are worth it.
Gremio Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 windows, I'm with you on that. When I was in HS, I didn't fit in with any crowd or clique. I had friends, and they were seniors when I was a sophomore. Since I was young, I never bonded with people my age. I've always felt myself as older mentally. I don't see the point in drinking, parties, one night stands, etc. Today, I'm in my mid 20s, but my best friends are 28, 37, and other various ages. My youngest real friend is my age, and that is a rarity. The people you are around tend to me immature, and unfortunately, if you go to college, a lot of them are only going to get worse. But at least you have the ability to socialize with those with a higher intellect.
prettybaby Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Hahah, I was totally the same in high school. But hey, it gets so much better in just a few years time after graduation! Cheers!!
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