Starbright_SB Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Ok, so my oyfriend and i had been dating for about a year now. Lately i've been super stressed about personal stuff, and he has his own issues to deal with, and lately we've been getting into these fighting matches. Also, he's considering taking a job that might mean he has to move across the country and he wants me to go, but i was unsure, and i almost had my mind set on breaking things off. we had worked some things out, decided to try something else, but i pretty much didnt give it a chance even though he did make an effort anc do some things differently, i kept freaking out, and on Saturday i broke up with him. i should mention now that he has some major jealousy issues around my ex, and he can't even stand the thought of me being with him before. he asked me to never speak to him or see him again, and i aggreed and my ex has never come around again. His on the other hand is hell bent on them being best friends, and claims that she wants my BF to be happy with me. I told my ex that its only fair to me that if he wants me to get my ex out of my life, that he does the same. He said that he feels bad cause she's always calling him and texting him and he ignores her and only responds occasionally. So yesterday (sunday) i was feeling awful and realized that i was happy and i do want to be with him. He texted me and we ended up talking for 2 hours about everything, and we agreed to both make a list of things that we don't like and to talk it through on wednesday. When he asked me i said that we aren't back together but we also arent not, that we were talking and that's all i would say right now. So today, i found out that his ex called him, and he went out to dinner with her and he added her on facebook and all that. Now i know that since technically we aren't together he did nothing wring and is allowed to do anything he wants. But when i called him and we talked about it, i found out that the last time he saw her, while we were still together she tried to kiss him (even though she claims that she wants us to be happy) and he still defended her after that and said that she only had good intentions (he didn't tell me that she tried to kiss him). I got really upset that he would even see her because it really hurts me, and i know that he knows that. he's mad at me for leaving him, but he still wants me back, and i still want him back, but i jut feel like there is such a double standard with the whole ex thing, and i am so unsure what to do now. I know i we get back together i will always be paranoid about her, and i know if i asked him to , he would delete her and tell her that its not fair for him to expect me to not do something and for him to do it so that she wouldn't contact him anymore, but i just don't know if i feel comfortable asking that. And i don't understand why if he knew we were gonna talk and try and work things out he would do something that would hurt me so much. I dont really know what to do here, its a head versus heart thing, and i'm so confused. Any input or opinions would be great!
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