Facebook - Too Much information!

[Kate08]

Hi all - I just joined to get some insight.

 

 

I'll keep this short and relatively clear.

 

My boyfriend of close to 1 year - is on my facebook.

I was on his facebook today - and was looking over his photos. And in 2 albums...he has a photo of his ex- girlfriend in each one. No name....just the 2 of them cuddled up together. Growl!

 

He and I are serious regarding our relationship....he tells me "forever" . We enjoy talking and planning out our future. he's 33, and i am 28.

 

 

He never talks about her , only to say she was a waste of time. They did not see each other for as long as we have been together.

 

My friends are on his facebook as well - and they see those photos too.

 

I don't want to get into a fight/ argument about this....i have been patient - hoping in time he'd get rid of them. As I don't want to be pushy.

 

How should I approach this topic. it obviously bothers me.... I think it would with many other women too!

 

Also - because facebook has tagged photos - He is tagged in his ex-'s old albums! So I was look at his photo's today ...and stummbled onto her photos of them.....nothing bad....some kissing (pissed me off, yes.).....I wish he would remove his tags from those photos....

 

Hope to hear some opinions, or even stories like mine.

 

 

Kate

[Shygirl15]

He never talks about her , only to say she was a waste of time. They did not see each other for as long as we have been together.

Really? I would doubt his statement since he seems to still be holding on to her memories, and proud to show it to the world.

 

Talk to him. Express your feelings just the way you expressed them here and see what he has to say.

 

Does he have pics of you and him also in his FB?

[Kate08]

He erased them fast as possible.

 

He told me that he did'nt realize they where on there....as they where in a album oh his ex's facebook- with him tagged in it. so the tagged photos come up as photos of him from other people.

 

He was disgusted - and said that if the shoe was on the other foot his heart would be aching and in angst too.

 

 

So I have let him apologize to me. and so now there are NO traces of photos.

 

He has always had me in his album. But there was 2 pics of "her" in one of his fishing albums. That he did not realize they where there.

 

He said he feels stupid and kinda embarrassed.

 

I told him it made me so up set to see those photos - that I wanted to throw my computer out the window.

 

 

From my understanding- she left him...and found another man. Then crawled back to him.....he took her back.....then she left him for good after that.

 

 

 

 

 

He has been working in the mountains as a forest ranger - and has little access to the net.......but can still check facebook when he's off work.

 

He's suck a dork at times, and does not see the things and details that I do.

 

Men - nuff said.

 

 

I told him to keep the apologies coming.

[mental_traveller]

I wouldn't be displaying photos of my kissing an ex for all the world to see, if I was currently seeing a girl I was serious about.

 

Big red flag IMO. Unless they were up there since before you two started dating - even then, he should have removed them. Give him one gentle reminder - if he removes them, you are ok. If he complains, or ignores your request, then that's a very bad sign.

[zicke]

He erased them fast as possible.

 

He told me that he did'nt realize they where on there....as they where in a album oh his ex's facebook- with him tagged in it. so the tagged photos come up as photos of him from other people.

 

He was disgusted - and said that if the shoe was on the other foot his heart would be aching and in angst too.

 

 

So I have let him apologize to me. and so now there are NO traces of photos.

 

He has always had me in his album. But there was 2 pics of "her" in one of his fishing albums. That he did not realize they where there.

 

He said he feels stupid and kinda embarrassed.

 

I told him it made me so up set to see those photos - that I wanted to throw my computer out the window.

 

 

From my understanding- she left him...and found another man. Then crawled back to him.....he took her back.....then she left him for good after that.

 

 

 

 

 

He has been working in the mountains as a forest ranger - and has little access to the net.......but can still check facebook when he's off work.

 

He's suck a dork at times, and does not see the things and details that I do.

 

Men - nuff said.

 

 

I told him to keep the apologies coming.

 

Wow--take a chill pill--he apologized, explained the situation and it is resolved--it's not like he did it on purpose. You "let him" apologize to you?

 

You seem a bit controlling--the facebook stalking, calling him a dork who doesn't see details...

[missdependant]

Someone needs to write a book and title it:

 

"IT'S JUST MYSPACE [or facebook]. GET OVER IT!"

 

Don't let some website be the source of drama in your relationship. Also, don't think about his past relationships. They serve no relativity to you.

 

He is not with that chick anymore; he probably forgot about it as so many people update their page once a year and log in for about 5 minutes a week.

 

Clearly he is with you, so don't even sweat it. He probably DID just forget.

 

While we're on the subject of myspace.. I'd like to just say that I think it is stupid, and people diagnosed with severe mental issues should not be allowed to use it!

 

My EXES' gf (or wife, whatever, don't care!) started sending me all these messages about what an awful bitc* i am, and how i need to die.. then started spouting off all of these personal details about me that she "happened to know about" (can you say stalker?). So I block her. What does she do? Makes a new profile. I block that one. And again.. she makes another one. Talk about psychopath!

 

Then, my bf's ex girlfriend sent him messages about how much she loves him and all this other crap. He tell sher she's dumb, so what does she do? Sends me a message about how I "stole the only man she ever loved".. even though they only dated for 3 months and had been broken up for well over a year. I hate to say this, because I don't want to sound vain.. but I can see why he's not with her anymore!

[Kate08]

Wow--take a chill pill--he apologized, explained the situation and it is resolved--it's not like he did it on purpose. You "let him" apologize to you?

 

You seem a bit controlling--the facebook stalking, calling him a dork who doesn't see details...

 

Hmm, yes I suppose your right. I wrote that last note in a pretty stressed mood.

 

However - I thank you all for your insight. And i have gained better understanding from this feedback.

 

Yes, it's only facebook.

 

All photos are gone...they where gone as soon as i brought it up......he did not even realize they where there. And gladly erased them.

 

 

signing off now.

 

cheers - Kate:o