9Lives Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Happy people Everyone has hard times. But happy people are able to endure the pain of life, the disappointments, the unhappiness..and live thru it...and get on with the other business instead of wallowing in the misery. We seem to be waiting for a event or a person who is going to impact us in such a way that "now" we can be happy. Happines does not come when we meet mr right or mrs right. Happiness involves facing and accepting reality as it is and going with that flow. It is living in the now. There isnt something to do...somthing to accomplish...My point is that you should approximately know how your ex-gone NC feels by knowing how they felt about you. If our ex can move on and keep their head up high....WE CAN DO IT TOO. If your ex did not treat you right. Karma is a bit/ch. In the meantime....GET on with your life. Put a smile on our face and realize that the ex is NO LONGER WORTH YOUR TIME. F/ck them Love 9Lives
ashleigh422 Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 AMEN~ Couldn't of said it better myself!!
skinman Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 My sentiments exactly........ I needed something to put a smile on my face this morning....... this sure did it !!!!
Author 9Lives Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 hey this help me too. I cant keep going down everytime a relationship ends. I think detaching your happiness from certain situation is a life saver. You have to grow to that cause men/woman may come and go. then what you going to do?
Sysyphus28 Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Denial is counter-productive. Positive affirmation and pro-active behavior is productive. CLosure is the answer to healing. Forgiveness is the answer to feeling good about the situation. Is someone who hurt you worth your time? NO. But how do you feel intend to suddenly get happy and feel comfortable with being dumped on your a**? The answer is be the bigger person. the answer is get closure. 1.Wait six months/ if it's been six months good. 2.Get your ex to meet you for a drink, this person who has caused you so much grief. 3. Be honest with yourself and open an ungaurded conversation. No I miss you No I still love you this is residue feeling from the past Open up the lines of communication and try to have a laugh. Forgive them. I said," I forgive you", she was like, for what, I did nothing wrong. I laughed and said it's ok. Some of these dumpers don't know the damage they have caused and what you overcame. Ignorant and blissfull. But guess who became stronger, guess who learned a valauable coping skill, guess who has done alot of self-work. YOU. Thank them for them beign the cataylst for your self-improvement. Say goodbye wth a smile not a tear. Be a bigger person. To lose isn't so bad. Wait until you win again, that will be a sweet victory
alwayssme Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 i got closure many times but it was never the closure i wanted. it was more like "i dont know why" "i dont know how to answer that" but closure wasnt the problem...its simply having the one you love fall out of love with you and then be completely out of your life that hurts, especially since i dont like people easily. trust me it takes a lot for me to feel a connection. my ex was the only one i truly felt this deep connection with and now that hes gone, its lonely but im still alive and living life so it'll get better someday i hope
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