What am I doing? Is this ok?

[Lucky555]

I have usually dated and only seen one guy at a time but now it just happens to be a weird situation with men! I'm not used to expressing my feelings to multiple men but I have found myself really wanting to know more about them and see if we connect. I now go with what i feel. If the guy asks me if i think hes cute or if im glad i met him I say yes because thats the truth.

 

I'm not cheating on anyone because I have not slept with them nor am I in a committed relationship.

 

I know i want a relationship where the guy wants the same things I do out of life...thats what makes it functional for the long term i believe. I really just want to find someone thats honest and wants things to work and will make an effort to be with me.

So am I doing anything wrong here? Should i be doing anything different?

I went out on a date with a guy and had a great time.

Guy emails me everyday via myspace and lives in another state.

I would truly like to get to know him better.

He has not called me or anything though. Its more like we chat about ourselves through email.

I gave him my number he hasn't called me or anything just the messages.

I don't know if this is going anywhere. Like i said its two different states miles apart!

 

Second guy, I met him at a club and he just has started texting me and hes very attractive and attentive. He asked for my number, email, and he wants to see me.

 

He smokes which i don't like.

He is from another country and lives 2 hours away but he has said he would drive to see me.

We only met this one night but i want to get to know him better too before i date.

 

Third thing...I still think about my ex. I found out about him talking with the ex as i've mentioned before which is why it ended and the fact he couldn't commit since he was heartbroken from a previous relationship where he was engaged! After 2 years off and on and it going no where i couldn't deal with it, i tried to be patient but it wasn't enough.

He never told me or anything. He also couldn't commit to me. I am still deeply hurt by that but I'm ready for the real thing true love!

[Gremio]

I get the feeling you're seeking attention from anyone who gives it to you. I could never invest in someone who I just met when they live hours away. To me, it just screams "hooking up" and not a relationship when you saw either guy.

[Lucky555]

I like the attention I can't deny that, but I also want to get to know them better.

 

I don't think after one meeting I want to invest myself and jump into something because i have done this before and I found out that guy was not a good fit at all because he did drugs and drank every night (i didn't know he did drugs until after dating him for a couple weeks)...even though he appeared to be a good guy when i met him. So I'm just getting to know them and be myself.

 

The emails that are taking place are pretty casual and I thought he would just stop contacting me after he went back to his state...but hes still talking and I don't understand this. Hes also good friends with my best friends boyfriend. I don't get his intentions and i wouldn't mind if im just his friend because im not invested since it was just one date. We liked each other but I don't understand it.