Copperkitty007 Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I am soo hurt and upset. He was a friend for a year first before he convinced me we were "perfect for each other" and instead of picking up the phone and having a conversation, he disappeared for a week b/c he needed space and then broke up via e-mail. He didnt even have the balls to come to me, I finally had to ask what is going on. It is not that I will miss the relationship so much but that he was a friend and I trusted him. I never thought he would disrespect me like that. I have had a horrible year of men and I am not sure if I should get back on the horse or forget dating for a while. Copper
Geishawhelk Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Have you responded? You know what I'd do? I don't know if this would be possible, but tell him you never got it. Play innocent. Go meet him for lunch one day, say "maybe you could discuss a plan", and he'll say - "didn't you get my e-mail?" To which you can reply - "No, I've had problems with my internet connection, I haven't seen my mail for days. Why, what did you say?" And smile sweetly and innocently, as you put your arm through his. Then feel him squirm, the rat.
Author Copperkitty007 Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 nah Geisha, I have already responded. He has been so disrespectful that I dont even want him in my life. We were friends first and the fact that he cant tell me directly but via e-mail when i am at work shows me he has never had any respect for me our friendship (that we had for a year before we started dating) let alone our time spent as lovers. i told him i am disapointed in his actions and that i deserved somone with character, morals and values. honestly i have had mean dogs treat me better. i want better for myself and my future. thansk for all the reply's this past weekend, it really helped me see this for what it really is. hugs, Copper
Geishawhelk Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Oh, ok. I thought maybe you might be able to have one last jab at putting him in his palce. you did good. Hold your head up, Copper, you are so much better than he is. Whilst he behaves with people like this, not only does he have to contend with the fact that he's made you unhappy, he also has to deal with the fact that he's a crappy person, with few morals and fewer scruples. Fancy having to live with yourself when you behave so badly. Goodness knows what he's like with people he doesn't like - ! Shake it off. Don't let it get to you. His actions more than prove that you are soooooooooo much better off without him. You know this, right...?
Author Copperkitty007 Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 I do know this and that is why i already have a date lined up for next saturday afternoon. i am sure it will just be a rebound type of thing but it will at least give me something to focus on and have someone give me some nice attention.
trueblue72ny Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 i got the same. an email break up . that was after 4 years!!! i am still processing the whole thing after 4months. i am trying to understand.
Author Copperkitty007 Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 wow - 4 years??? I am very sorry TruBlue. Its just not right but all i can say is their actions show that they are not the upstanding, respectful, honorable people we thought they were. i keep thinking it was better now than yrs down the line and having kids in the picture and you get served divorce papers - cause their actions of breaking up via e-mail show me they dont have the balls to talk about things and would probably hide behind a lawyer. hugs to you. keep strong and realize you got lucky.
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