Melrapuo Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 So I'm starting to like a new girl, but she just got out of a relationship a little over a month ago. Not sure what it is about her I like, but its something that's there. Anyway, the problem has been that I wasn't 100% sure what she was looking for. One moment she'd be making out with me, and kissing in a way that's more affectionate than lustful. But then she'd say things like how she's giving up on guys and vowed to be single for a while. And she has had a LOT of ex's. Lots. Talks about them a bit too much with me, which has made me feel like I'm being used as emotional support. She likes to talk to me a lot, and one night made it kinda of obvious that she wanted to hang out with me, and we drove around aimlessly and just talked about crap. I realized that maybe she just wanted to screw around, and I knew I was getting attached and started to distance myself (don't wanna become attached to someone who isn't into me like that). She said I was acting weird, was getting kind of angry about the distance I was forming. I said that I owed her an explanation, and she said she didn't wanna sound mean, but she didn't want any of my baggage because she had enough of her own. I took that as a good hint so I politely said 'never mind' and left it at that. Three hours later she asks if I'm mad at her, and I tell her I'm not (and I wasn't). She was insistent on it, and I told her that I respected her wishes that I don't drop any of my 'baggage' on her. And that it was just something I wanted to say to her. So she said I might as well just call her and tell her. So I explained why I was distant, and that I liked her. That, and I figured I'd never truly know unless I just did it, so I asked her out. Her reaction wasn't exactly what I wanted. She was reluctant to answer for a while, and I told her it was fine if she said no, cuz I just wanted to get everything that I said off my chest. She told me that she wasn't really looking for anyone, but didn't say no. She said she'd go, but she told me not to expect her to be my gf or anything afterwards. I said that I didn't (which I don't, cuz that's not how it works either way). About an hour or so later she said she's bored and asks me to go online, and we bull**** for a few hours. No further mention of it. Now here's my obvious dilemma. She was reluctant to say anything, and might've just said that she wanted to go so she didn't hurt my feelings or anything. Very much appreciative that she repsects me enough in that way, but if she felt pressured into going I don't wanna do this. I'd rather her go cuz she wants to, not cuz she feels obligated. Am I psyching myself out here, or do you think I should simply call this off and save myself from possible disaster? Plus I don't wanna spend money on someone who is just gonna get a free meal out of it.
prettybaby Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 She has no idea what she wants. She sounds young and immature. Run.
Author Melrapuo Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 Gdi. Ya know, one of these days I'll actually find someone that isn't young, immature and knows what they want. My age group stinks. Thank you for the advice.
Author Melrapuo Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 Hmm...anyone know how I can do it in the most polite manner? Feel douche for putting her in that position in the first place. I did put her on the spot.
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