Sweetgapeach028 Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 ok i just met this man on wed 19th, had a great time, after we met we kept in contact, heck i even stayed at his house the first time meeting, and he was a perfect gentleman nothing sexual well except for me holding him at night lol, he called me on friday,when he got back home from the thanks giving holiday, before then we would text from time to time, i would say in my texts something like, i dont mean to intrude just saying hi, cause i didn't know what he was doing and didn't want to intrude with him, he would come back and say you could never intrude but its something i always felt i was doing. Well we talked on friday 2 times had great convos so i thought, on sat he textd me saying gm hope you have a great day. i replied back saying to him, gm hope you have a wonderful day. About 11 30 i textd him again asking how his day was going since hes unable to talk on the phone at work, well i got no reply, at around 230 i textd again asking day going well? at about 315 he textd back saying yes and yours. and i felt like i was intruding with him and i said i know i shouldn't of textd it but i did, i said sorry didn't mean to intrude, and he came back and said, you know what you have issues. i was so hurt all i could reply back to him was ok, and i havent heard from him since then. Was he trying to tell me our friendship is over but really didn't want to come out and say it or was he just making a point to me and he might be back. Do you think he will contact me again? We are both over 25.
xjadex Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Seems like it was you doing all of the pursuing and that can come across as being needy, clingy and desperate. I never pursue a guy, not unless he's reciprocating the same amount of interest. Don't know what advice to give other than, don't call or text him again. If he wants you, he will come to you.
Geishawhelk Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 I'm sorry to say it, but I think it sounds as if he may be right. You seem to have a desperation in your attitude that wants to be loved, and that wants someone to love you. I'm afraid I can see his point. It sounds very much as if you do have some issues of self-esteem and validation, and perhaps you should consider discussing things with a counsellor. We don't need to be in love to make us wonderful. We are already wonderful. That's why people love us.
prettybaby Posted December 3, 2008 Posted December 3, 2008 Wow, well, he made that clear I'd seriously back off and not call or text again. You texted way too much, and every time with the "hope I'm not intruding" line. I mean, put yourself in his shoes, that's annoying and not attractive at all. I think it's pretty clear you messed up on this one. He won't contact you again, so it's best to move on.
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