Sysyphus28 Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I have done months of self-work to feel better about getting dumped by the girl I loved.I have really been through every range of every emotion(seriously). I did NC for weeks, then a month. I talked to her and lamented. I talked to her and told her F off, and showed her some hostility. I even tried to be her friend way TOO SOON which was not fun! Don't get me wrong, I still what she did sucked, my heart still feels heavy when I get really nostalgic, but I have examined how and why this relationship really ended. I talked to her last night for an hour on the phone. The longest and most honest conversation we have had in 4 months. We talked about what happened in our relationship, what we were both up to with work and school, and our new relationship ventures. I asked her if she was with so and so. She said Yes she is. She is going to college back in Ny after May. We laughed a bit about a few things. I told her I didn't want things to be awkward anymore. I told her I don't know about right now, but eventually it would nice to be friends. It might take years, and by then, who knows, it might not matter at all. I slept well last night and I didn't wake up with any "What if's". I didn't have to repeat my "must let go" mantra today. I am really glad that this conversation went ok. Honesty helped, and being honest with myself helped. I saw that it was over and talked to my X like it was over. I feel like all the little steps I have been taking were leading up to this jump. I was able to discuss our new relationships and crack jokes and be normal. It was pretty cool. I feel really good about myself today. Like I accomplished something BIG in this healing process. What are your thoughts on positive closure conversations?!
Surfer Dude Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Awesome. I'm sure this helped you a lot. I never got the chance to talk to my ex about the reasons of breakup. Whenever I tried to talk to her about what happened, she bailed or started sending me pics of her new boyfriends and things like that. What a piece of sh*t. Never even gave me an explanation. Not that it was necessary, I knew she cheated on me and left with other men. Damn whore. She even had the nerve to hang out with me in person after our breakup and show me pics of her boyfriends on facebook. You are one lucky man if your ex respected you enough to give you some sort of closure. I'm really glad for you
EmperorR Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 That's great your lucky. Any time I had to talk to my ex she was suddenly busy and had to go. When I asked why she cheated she always blamed me, I'd rather not speak to her again.
Author Sysyphus28 Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 I'm not too lucky. I still got dumped and it sucked. Yea she talked to me. But it's not she loves me anymore.
Cub Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 But she respects you enough to tell you the truth. And now that you have the closure you need, you can really start to heal.
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