OCCDAVE Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I'm not dealing well with my break up of 2 and half years to my ex. I didn't get even a happy thanksgiving which should give me every reason to be mad but its not.I have gone nc for close to 2 weeks and i just feel that every day that slips by is that much eaiser to her.I feel like giving it one last shot and telling her to hear me out or will that make me look bad.
EmperorR Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 It will trust me been there done that. If she wanted to contact she would, all contatcting will do is make you feel like crap after you do it and set you back. However if it's bothering you that much then go for it, don't say I didn't warn you. I know we all want to hear when we contatc the ex is that their lives are horrible without us and they miss us and want to give it another go but nope.
Author OCCDAVE Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 It will trust me been there done that. If she wanted to contact she would, all contatcting will do is make you feel like crap after you do it and set you back. However if it's bothering you that much then go for it, don't say I didn't warn you. I know we all want to hear when we contatc the ex is that their lives are horrible without us and they miss us and want to give it another go but nope.In your case what happened cause she has been posting her status on myspace and her life has been moving on it seems.I just know i meant more then that to her or maybe she is hiding it well i dunno.Heck the other day she text my sister asking for me to get my stuff then replied saying i gotta go im out with my bf.I know she did that to spark a reaction but i didn't reply to it. Btw Im not to happy to admit this but i called her private last night then i hung up cause i missed hearing her voice sigh
EmperorR Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 As soon as I contacted she said she had to go, checkin myspace facebook is the devil. Last time I checked my ex she wassmiling with her new bf and boy did it hurt.
Author OCCDAVE Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 As soon as I contacted she said she had to go, checkin myspace facebook is the devil. Last time I checked my ex she wassmiling with her new bf and boy did it hurt.Guess i will keep with the nc but if not even getting a happy thanksgiving is any clue then friends are not gonna happen.
IcemanJB Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 As soon as I contacted she said she had to go, checkin myspace facebook is the devil. quoted for truth! I would suggest cutting out every possibly means of contacting her. Seeing facebook updates is never good, neither is seeing her page. When my ex and I first broke up, I checked her fb multiple times a day...gradually I limited myself to a few times a week, but each time still sucked and set me back a long time. Yesterday I deactivated my facebook so the temptation isn't there (she wasn't the only reason). I just signed onto AIM 30 minutes ago, and she threw up an away message that was OBVIOUSLY directed at me (not bad or anything). I signed off immediately. Each little step helps, but you gotta cut EVERYTHING out. Even the little "meaningless" contacts will set you back, trust me. I told my ex to stop contacting me about a week ago; she would several times a week after our breakup. She broke up with you I'm assuming, so if she truly wants you back she'll make it known.
Dmoney28 Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Ok, you have to go NC. Trust me, i have been there. 3 weeks after the break-up, my ex was giving me all kinds of crazy mixed signals, mostly because she didnt know what she wanted at the time. I made the "Last Stand" speach...to hear me out. Went very bad...she was pissed. By doing that i was not taking her needs in consideration. She wanted time and space. You have to give it to her....trust me. There is nothing you can do or say to change her mind. Anything you do will push her away...and make the matter worse. Go NC....its painfull, its sucks, it hurts, you'll loose sleep, you wont be able to eat....but, it does get better. day by day...week by week, the pain will lessen. If she wants to contact you....make sure you guys are on the same page about the contact. If she just wants to be friends, and you cant handdle that right now....tell her and go back NC, and recover.
Author OCCDAVE Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 I have a question should i keep my myspace status as blank or put something my friend suggested i put Is finding out that out of site is out of mind .Or keep her guessing whats going on i know she still views my page cause my views keep going up,
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