audioslave Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 What if the guy/girl who's involved was the one actively pursuing? Why should you feel guilty then - he/she could have stopped it at any point. Sometimes you may not be the homewrecker yourself at all, but just sort of ended up being in that position. Hell, sometimes you may not even find out about it at all until much later. I'm in this poistion now and it sucks. Everything just sort of happen between me and her, neither one of us thought it would have led to were it has. When she is with her BF and not me it's one the worst feelings I have ever had, Especaily when our whole group hangs out, it hurts when I see them togethor like that. But anyways, anyone else ever been the third person in a relationship?
Ronni_W Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 anyone else ever been the third person in a relationship? Millions of people, of both genders, and all ages, nationalities and traditions, since time began (or very soon thereafter.) You can read the stories of some "3-person relationships" in 'the other man/woman' and 'infidelity' forums. It doesn't really matter who did the active pursuing, though, does it? The passive non-pursuer also has the same freedom of choice to stop the deceit/cheating at any point...from the moment they find out about the other person's primary relationship. Yes, it does hurt when you are the "secret" person in this type of 3-way -- feels as if you're always begging for scraps, and getting crumbs. Not a wise choice for the self, IMO.
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