Rudderless Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I just can't seem to meet anyone anymore. I've been in long term relationships but since I've got into my early thirties things just seem... different. It's not really attracting the opposite sex that's the problem. I suppose being short doesn't help but I tend to compensate for that with my confidence, also I'm a pretty hot mixed race guy so I don't have any issues with my looks, good education and job etc. The problem is attracting someone I feel compatible with, it just doesn't seem to be happening for me. I think partly it's because I look very young for my age (it's the short thing again) and although I think a lot of guys would love this, attracting early 20's girls just isn't what I'm looking for, and they just don't believe me when I tell them my age! I just can't seem to meet anyone late 20's early 30's that fits with me...someone just down to earth. It's hard because my industry is male dominated so I have to really put myself out there. But it just doesn't seem to be working. It's been like a year now since I've been in a relationship, I feel like I have so much to offer and I'm missing out. It never used to be like this, it's all so confusing.
movingonandon Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 i'm in pretty much the same shoes you are. but, don't feel lonely, (although, like you, more than anything i'd like to find a nice girl to marry, and the prospects have been bleak so far). but, think positively, which in this case is easy - most guys would love to be able to say that attracting girls is not the problem. (but, only the cool cats know that that's neither really the issue nor the key prize ) unfortunately, the only way to meet someone long-term compatible is to date your asss off.. and be open to 1) modifying your criteria and 2) to the possibility that this might never happen; but, in the meantime this does not mean that you should be turning down the ladies. Who said that picking up girls has to be unfulfilling? I do not believe in manipulating girls with cheapo tricks, so many of the things that help in building actual short term attraction also apply in a long term relationships. So, hone your awesomness, and hopefully you (and I) will get lucky eventually.
Gremio Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I know the feeling of it, and I'm in my mid 20s. The thing is I'm very picky when it comes to women. I can see right through people, read people, and I overthink I lot of things I come upon. In due time my friend.
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