Nagini Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Im afraid that a man my family wants me to date again hasnt treated me well enough. they like that he is is a 35 yr old catholic filipino from a very good family i am finishing grad school and my new job will be in his city 3 hours away. i really adored him when we briefly dated. felt butterflies. we've stayed friends and he call me exquistely beautiful and sweet. But i feel taken for granted. Our dates were spaced far apart last year an dhe blamed distance. turns out he had a korean gf starting just before our last date. he told me about her a weke before he broke up with her. told me he didnt mention her because she was fun but not marriage material and that he missed me. he then publicly added her to facebook, updated his status as in a relationship fo rone short week and then dumped her and changed back to single. i told him i couldnt date him when he had just gotten out of a relationship a month passed by and he was dating new girl... over the summer she broke it off and he again told me he would travel to woo and court me. i still felt uncertain even though i find him appealing. i finally agreed to date im again, but not soon enough .... again he found a new gf this time a devout catholic white girl. she seemed nice (we have mutual friends) so i gave up on him again. she is size 2which he loves, active seemed great. but then i noticed he started asking me out again. a week later he went to an opening she was hosting and then she deleted him as a friend on myspace and facebook the next day. and now like CLOCKWORK he is saying he hopes he finally gets to see me soon and is glad im at least moving there in january. meanwhile some new girl has started posting and sending him virtual gifts on fb. she asks where her virtual gift is and sends virtual pinches ot him. he says she is a friend. he said she is too pushy and he hopes to see me soon so he seems to treat me like a backup plan. I dont understand why though. I have alot of great amazing guys whom Ive dated before who think Im pretty amazing and super cool and darn cute to boot (Chinese/Ducth/French) He and i are in contact online every day. Does he need to MISS ME ? He once told me he lost his first fiancee to anothe rman because he ddint appreciate her until she out of his life and then his heart nearly broke for 2 years. Go no contact, talk to him or dump him ?
Gremio Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Say goodbye. He is a player. If he liked you, you would be the only one he wants to be with.
Author Nagini Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 HAHA WOW ! Fastest answer ever. well my friends don't like him one bit. they call him a slightly chubby creepste.r i find him hot though... my family just says he is just being a man who gets lonely and that once i move he will find me go entrancing that he will forget everyone else.
Gremio Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I always ignore family when it comes to hook ups and advice with relationships. I'm a male in my mid 20s. Perhaps I'm abnormal, but I don't date. I don't see multiple people. If I am interested in someone, she is the only one I think about.
Author Nagini Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 I always ignore family when it comes to hook ups and advice with relationships. I'm a male in my mid 20s. Perhaps I'm abnormal, but I don't date. I don't see multiple people. If I am interested in someone, she is the only one I think about. Well yeah Im the same way ...I either don't date at all OR its with someone really super special. The other 3 guys Ive dated have ONLY had eyes for me. And even when we had ot be apart due to life, travel, family emergencies, school, they pined me for me and vice versa. None of this one minut ehe is single and a month later has a gf. Not even just dating bunchs of people ...Just boom ! Already 3 girlfriends since we last dated
Gremio Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Well I believe you have your answer. Just follow through!
Perry Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Well, wasn't he interested in you from the beginning? If you don't want to make yourself available to him, is he suppose to not ask anyone else out? It seems like when he is single, he tries to see if you are still interested. Only you can answer the question on whether or not you should date him.
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